mum passed away, free at last of the torment of this illness

Discussion in 'After dementia — dealing with loss' started by gillybean, Feb 14, 2015.

  1. Chemmy

    Chemmy Registered User

    Nov 7, 2011
    Your mum is spared any further indignities so it's right to feel relief. Sincere condolences.
  2. Ann Mac

    Ann Mac Registered User

    Oct 17, 2013
    Sending sympathy for your loss, so glad it was peaceful xxx
  3. WIFE

    WIFE Registered User

    May 23, 2014
    When someone has been ill - and dementia is an illness - for a period of time and you have watched that person you love deteriorate in health knowing they will not recover - it is natural to feel relief that they are now beyond pain - mental and physical. Give yourself time - Mother's are such special people - you will probably find that your feelings fluctuate for a time as you come to terms with your loss.

    Thinking of you and your family with loving thoughts at this sad time WIFE
  4. sue38

    sue38 Registered User

    Mar 6, 2007
    Wigan, Lancs
    I'm sorry to hear of your loss.

    There is no right or wrong way to feel. Relief is quite normal, relief that your mum is no longer suffering, and relief that your own battle with dementia is over too.
  5. gillybean

    gillybean Registered User

    Jan 17, 2007
    Oh, thank you all for your kind comments and support.
    I know a lot of the names that commented, Lindy we have been on this journey together and Mrs TerryN to name a few.

    I thought I'd be OK as in a way I said goodbye to my 'real' Mum a long while ago and this last year has been so very hard like a roller coaster of events but still I feel overwhelmed by her loss I suppose because it's final.

    Thanks again
  6. Sue J

    Sue J Registered User

    Dec 9, 2009
    Sorry to read of your loss Gillybean.
  7. CollegeGirl

    CollegeGirl Registered User

    Jan 19, 2011
    North East England
    I'm so sorry to hear this, gillybean. I'm glad you were there for her, please accept my condolences xx
  8. ellejay

    ellejay Registered User

    Jan 28, 2011
    Sorry for your loss, Gillybean, please accept my condolences x

    Lin x
  9. stanleypj

    stanleypj Registered User

    Dec 8, 2011
    North West
    Such sad news gillybean. But so good that you were with your mum and that she passed peacefully.
  10. Saffie

    Saffie Registered User

    Mar 26, 2011
    Near Southampton
    My condolences on the loss of your mother. I am glad that her passing was peaceful and that you were with her.
  11. MeganCat

    MeganCat Registered User

    Jan 29, 2013
    South Wales
    So sorry for your loss, part of the relief is that your mum is not struggling along the course of this awful disease any longer - I think that's compassionate and so you shouldn't feel guilt. Xxx im glad you were able to be with her.
  12. Canadian Joanne

    Canadian Joanne Volunteer Moderator

    Apr 8, 2005
    Toronto, Canada
    I'm so sorry, Gillybean. At this time our emotions are an incredibly tangled mess. There is no right or wrong way to feel. But your mother is now free of this horrible disease.
  13. VickyG

    VickyG Registered User

    Feb 6, 2013
    I'm so sorry to read that your Mum has gone. There will be a whole host of emotions swirling around and they will come and go.............. Take care, thinking of you x
  14. Pickles53

    Pickles53 Registered User

    Feb 25, 2014
    Radcliffe on Trent
    Sending my deepest sympathy to you and all your family, and wishing you peace and strength.
  15. Tears Falling

    Tears Falling Registered User

    Jul 8, 2013
    So sorry to read your news. Sending hugs x
  16. cheryl k

    cheryl k Registered User

    Sep 9, 2012
    Mum passed away

    My thoughts andd prayers are with you during this time.

    I agree it is an emotional time dealing with the second loss of your loved one to this awful disease. When my Dad died in December, I felt the very same emotions. It is a relief to know your loved one is whole again in heaven, but bittersweet for you.

    This takes time and just let your emotions guide you. It is a very important part of the healing process.

    Take care

  17. Kate and jack

    Kate and jack Registered User

    Gilly bean

    Hope your ok and find the strength to get back to a some what normal life ,thinking about having some you time...we are taken up constantly by the illness we forget about our selfs
    God bless your lovely mum and love and hugs to you
  18. Gigglemore

    Gigglemore Registered User

    Oct 18, 2013
    British Isles
    So sorry for the loss of your Mum
  19. sarafina

    sarafina Registered User

    Sep 28, 2009
    Your Mum

    It's 2 months since my Mum passed away, I nursed her at home and the grief is so raw, she had to go and your Mum is with my Mum now. Two Stars shining down upon us both.

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