Hello all, my 83yo mum with recently diagnosed vascular dementia keeps rejecting any outside help. She sacked the AgeUK home help after 5 visits, she liked - then said she didn’t like - Wiltshire Farm Foods. She’s now onto her second set of carers (1/2 hour every weekday lunchtime) and is saying she doesn’t want/need them, and never agreed to them in the first place. And now also says she doesn’t have dementia, having been to a day centre last week where she was “by far the cleverest”.
So ... what do I do? I know she needs a bit of help (with cleaning, and prompts for tablets and sometimes to eat and drink).
Is this new denial just another step?
She is very independent and proud. Do I just leave her until a crisis necessitates intervention?
It is very hard to just leave her struggling even though she doesn’t see it and “just wants to be left alone”. I live 100 miles away and there are no close/able relatives so we rely on the kindness of neighbours.
Thanks for any kind words of advice.
So ... what do I do? I know she needs a bit of help (with cleaning, and prompts for tablets and sometimes to eat and drink).
Is this new denial just another step?
She is very independent and proud. Do I just leave her until a crisis necessitates intervention?
It is very hard to just leave her struggling even though she doesn’t see it and “just wants to be left alone”. I live 100 miles away and there are no close/able relatives so we rely on the kindness of neighbours.
Thanks for any kind words of advice.