Hi all,
Can anyone share any advice?
My Dad was diagnosed with EOD in December last year. Since his diagnosis my Mum just isn’t accepting it. She seems angry with Dad all of the time and is constantly correcting him when he is doing things wrong. I don’t think she is doing it intentionally but she is so frustrated that it’s coming out in the wrong way. The problem is that she knocking my Dads (already very limited) confidence. It’s like she just won’t accept that he can’t do things. My Dad has even broken down saying that he feels worthless and she doesn’t seem to care (even though I know she does).
In addition to the above she has started getting angry with my sister and I when we care for Dad and also being horrid to us. She says that we don’t care about her and that it’s all about Dad. We are often caring for Dad to take the pressure off her and give her a break. We are also trying to give him a boost because she can be really horrid to him. We have told her that we want to look after her too.
We have tried to take her out for dinner, coffee, walks etc to help her get out of the house but she says no (and will phone us to moan at the most in appropriate times and get stroppy because we can’t speak there and then). She won’t go to support groups. We have even had flowers / breakfast / take ways sent to the house as a special surprise. She will not go to therapy or accept that any of her behaviours may be wrong.
Can anyone offer any advice as I don’t know what to do and can’t bite my tongue for much longer? If I snap then I know it will break my dads heart as we need to stick together but at the same time I feel like cutting her out and just caring for my Dad.
Can anyone share any advice?
My Dad was diagnosed with EOD in December last year. Since his diagnosis my Mum just isn’t accepting it. She seems angry with Dad all of the time and is constantly correcting him when he is doing things wrong. I don’t think she is doing it intentionally but she is so frustrated that it’s coming out in the wrong way. The problem is that she knocking my Dads (already very limited) confidence. It’s like she just won’t accept that he can’t do things. My Dad has even broken down saying that he feels worthless and she doesn’t seem to care (even though I know she does).
In addition to the above she has started getting angry with my sister and I when we care for Dad and also being horrid to us. She says that we don’t care about her and that it’s all about Dad. We are often caring for Dad to take the pressure off her and give her a break. We are also trying to give him a boost because she can be really horrid to him. We have told her that we want to look after her too.
We have tried to take her out for dinner, coffee, walks etc to help her get out of the house but she says no (and will phone us to moan at the most in appropriate times and get stroppy because we can’t speak there and then). She won’t go to support groups. We have even had flowers / breakfast / take ways sent to the house as a special surprise. She will not go to therapy or accept that any of her behaviours may be wrong.
Can anyone offer any advice as I don’t know what to do and can’t bite my tongue for much longer? If I snap then I know it will break my dads heart as we need to stick together but at the same time I feel like cutting her out and just caring for my Dad.