In a way this seems a rhetorical question, not looking for the definite answer but it troubles me. In the summer of 2020 my mother was admitted to a care home after 15+ years of progressive Alzheimer's that has substituted my mother into a 86 year old shell of the person she was. During this Covid lockdown period I have made Skype calls for 30 mins every Tuesday. 60+ calls later and my mother has never said "Hello", doesn't even recognise me. A physical visit will not miraculously change the situation, nor make my mother feel better. It will I am sure make me feel worse. Advanced Grief, is a term I have read in this forum, I wish the end would just come sooner and allow me to grieve but far more importantly provide mum the peace she deserves.