Hi, I don't post on here much - bit of a lurker. Mum went into a care home yesterday - to start with for two weeks respite but we all believe that she will stay there. It happened rather quickly. My dad hasn't been able to cope as well as he would like for a while now - mum's been getting aggressive, uncooperative at bath times etc - as well as him having to work. It's been a strain on us all. Then last week they said they had a space for her and she went in yesterday. It broke our hearts.
I'm really worried about my dad. They've been together over 40 years and he was truly heartbroken. He was saying that he has nothing left and there is no point to anything etc. I'm worried he's either going to top himself or just decline. Is this a normal response - as in a normal 'grieving' process?
It didn't seem right for my mum to be in the care home - she's only 60 so too young to be there. The other residents were elderly and asleep in their chairs. My mum doesn't fit in.
I'm really worried about my dad. They've been together over 40 years and he was truly heartbroken. He was saying that he has nothing left and there is no point to anything etc. I'm worried he's either going to top himself or just decline. Is this a normal response - as in a normal 'grieving' process?
It didn't seem right for my mum to be in the care home - she's only 60 so too young to be there. The other residents were elderly and asleep in their chairs. My mum doesn't fit in.