Hi there,
as per the title, my mother, 79 with vascular dementia, has completely lost her memory of everything now.
She doesn't know she has any family at all now. When we visit, she takes a minute to study faces, then recognises her children-somewhat, although she doesn't recognise us as her children, or even as anyone close to her, just someone she is vaguely familiar with.
If my Mum's asked if she has children, she says no. If our names are mentioned she asks who are they.
Other long term family members, such as in-laws, grandchildren etc. she sadly hasn't had a clue about for a good while now .
My Mum doesn't even recall that she had any siblings, or who her parents were etc. she doesn't know any places she used to live, work or have any long or short term memories at all.
In her bedroom, she cannot remember that she has an en suite bathroom and doesn't use it unless someone takes her, then it's a surprise each time.
If you give her sweets or chocolate, she throws them in her teacup, as she has forgotten what they are, or what to do with them.
I've read that vascular dementia patients usually don't completely forget close family, but obviously my Mum has and so it makes me sad to think that she might feel alone.
I knew to expect memory loss, but this is so severe, it's very difficult to try having any conversations with my Mum at all, as she cannot remember a simple sentence even.
You have to repeat yourself at least 5 times, in the slowest, simplest form, then she'll begin a reply, but it changes based upon what she's last seen,
eg;
Me- Mum do you like chocolate? (X5)
Mum- yes the bird (babble incoherent)
She doesn't ask anything anymore, she's unable to think of anything and is mostly disinterested in us, but likes to watch what others are doing.
Other than that she's reasonably well, eating ok, less fussy than ever, as she's forgotten she doesn't like a lot of foods. 🎉
My Mum doesn't seem unhappy, although she did start getting a bit aggressive a couple of months ago, with staff and other residents.
Has anyone else experienced this total loss of memory, but their loved one seems well otherwise? Is this a normal part of the decline?
Mum seems too well to be heading towards the later stages, but I'm shocked at how she cannot recall a single thing about herself, or her life, despite many stories and prompting.
I'm wondering if the dementia is progressing further and faster than I think it is, perhaps?
Thanks for reading. x
as per the title, my mother, 79 with vascular dementia, has completely lost her memory of everything now.
She doesn't know she has any family at all now. When we visit, she takes a minute to study faces, then recognises her children-somewhat, although she doesn't recognise us as her children, or even as anyone close to her, just someone she is vaguely familiar with.
If my Mum's asked if she has children, she says no. If our names are mentioned she asks who are they.
Other long term family members, such as in-laws, grandchildren etc. she sadly hasn't had a clue about for a good while now .
My Mum doesn't even recall that she had any siblings, or who her parents were etc. she doesn't know any places she used to live, work or have any long or short term memories at all.
In her bedroom, she cannot remember that she has an en suite bathroom and doesn't use it unless someone takes her, then it's a surprise each time.
If you give her sweets or chocolate, she throws them in her teacup, as she has forgotten what they are, or what to do with them.
I've read that vascular dementia patients usually don't completely forget close family, but obviously my Mum has and so it makes me sad to think that she might feel alone.
I knew to expect memory loss, but this is so severe, it's very difficult to try having any conversations with my Mum at all, as she cannot remember a simple sentence even.
You have to repeat yourself at least 5 times, in the slowest, simplest form, then she'll begin a reply, but it changes based upon what she's last seen,
eg;
Me- Mum do you like chocolate? (X5)
Mum- yes the bird (babble incoherent)
She doesn't ask anything anymore, she's unable to think of anything and is mostly disinterested in us, but likes to watch what others are doing.
Other than that she's reasonably well, eating ok, less fussy than ever, as she's forgotten she doesn't like a lot of foods. 🎉
My Mum doesn't seem unhappy, although she did start getting a bit aggressive a couple of months ago, with staff and other residents.
Has anyone else experienced this total loss of memory, but their loved one seems well otherwise? Is this a normal part of the decline?
Mum seems too well to be heading towards the later stages, but I'm shocked at how she cannot recall a single thing about herself, or her life, despite many stories and prompting.
I'm wondering if the dementia is progressing further and faster than I think it is, perhaps?
Thanks for reading. x