Hello everyone! So glad I found this forum. I care for my mum who is a diagnosed dementia sufferer and seems to have all the symptoms of a Alzheimer’s. Apart from the obvious memory issues, she is becoming paranoid. She looses money “it’s been stolen”, she cannot find her bra “your dad must be wearing it”, she cannot find the remote “they took it, they take everything”… they who?! Apart from the unintentional comedy, she is now telling me that my dad hit her. I find very unlikely, I was never once hit as a child, nor ever. He also is not the type, I find it very hard to believe. The stories also do not match up: she told she was hit in the face twice, but the second time she said she was hit on the arm. Also she told me I hit her on the face when I was young (never, ever happened!). She has had allucinations such as seeing writings on the wall, things crawling, dolls moving. My dad also has severe vascular issues and is nearly deaf, and takes care of her every day, making meals, giving her her medication, driving her to the doctor etc. I am worried though.. could this be true? We suspect he’s in the early stages of vascular dementia so I wonder. I am there for 2 months and a half in a year, for weeks in the summer and the rest of the time whenever I can. My dad is collaborative and we chat and joke every day on WhatsApp. I think she is paranoid and imagining things…, she seems to have in a nutshell several fake memories and generalised paranoia. She also treats him quite poorly despite his many daily tasks and the care received.
Have you been through this? What can I do? Any thoughts? Any tips?
I’m trying to find a way to move back where they live but have serious work constraints.
Thank you kindly, hope you and your families are well
Best
Have you been through this? What can I do? Any thoughts? Any tips?
I’m trying to find a way to move back where they live but have serious work constraints.
Thank you kindly, hope you and your families are well
Best