My mum, who is 86 & has Alzheimer's, is constantly in distress. She lives alone, close to me, and has carer visits three times a day. I visit for two or three hours every afternoon. There's no one else to visit - family pretty much all gone. She asks, continually, where her ''So called husband'' is - my dad died eleven years ago. She suspects he has another woman. Another main worry is about where her child (that's me - I'm an only child) is, because he's either not come home (he's only 16) or is asleep upstairs, unwell (mum lives in a ground floor flat). Often I cannot find answers to the questions & mum does not believe me when I try to reassure her that her son is quite safe. She was going to call the police yesterday. Changing the subject doesn't always work. Whatever's on her mind it's always negative - she's been dumped, 'they' will take the flat away from her. This is not her house, she only visits during the day & has to carry the cat home every night, on the bus. And then other times I'm her husband and am bombarded with questions about why I keep pretending I don't live there, when she makes all my meals & I sleep with her & now I'm saying I have another house - that's obviously where I keep my other women. I'm actually single & I'm certain my father never had any 'other women'. She hands me back her wedding ring & says we ought to split up officially. I should see a doctor, apparently! It all gets quite nasty & vehement. Interestingly once she's had her bed time medication - a very small dose of Lorazepam - this often resolves itself & she's quite pleasant again. But I'm not sure how much more of this I can listen to day in, day out. Mum has been approved for respite care, but says she'll refuse to go if I arrange it - which I'd like to do in a couple of weeks time.