- May 20, 2020
It's lonely, frustrating and so difficult . He is generally content, until I shout in frustration and then he just says, please don't shout. This is no what I thought my retirement would be
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Oh, thank you.
Thank you. I know, it is only going to get worse & I dread life without him, but I rarely see the man I married, these days. ( only 16 years ago, a second chance, I thought)
It's just so difficult, not only to see the man you love deteriorate but to see life disappearing and not being able to do anythi mng but wait for release.I thought having The Banjoman in my life was a second chance too, and it was. Unfortunately it didn’t last as long as I expected and we weren’t married but I have memories of the good times before dementia crept up on us and I became his carer and they keep me going now after he died last October. I deliberately think back to those times and do my best to forget about the rough ones.
Thank you. My main error is expecting too much of him. I take on projects like pressure washing the driveway then getting frustrated when he's going round in circles and I'm exhausted trying to actually finish. I have to remember that even planting carrots is a challenge for him! I must've keep it simple...Simplify Simplify and enjoy the simplest life. Can't just let the house go completely though ..I do get something time to myself.hello @babysister im a year younger than you but my husband is 72 19yrs age gap. he has vascular dementia and he loves the tv and ive discovered he likes music so can have my stereo on now. hes losing bits each day and is so mellow with it and even more lovable. i have an hour each after noon where i go to my room and he watches his rubbish tv. gives us time away from each other.i get up earlier and can read in peace. i know that it wont always be the case but but am thankful for it while i can
Thanks for this.Hi @Baby Sister , I'm just a couple of years older than you and my OH is a bit older than your husband, I understand what you're going through as mine is further along the path, into 5th year since Alzheimer's diagnosis. Sadly he doesn't watch TV anymore of have interest in anything much. I can recommend exercise though, keep it going as long as possible. Also time to yourself is vital, having carers in a couple of times a week saves my sanity - he used to go to day care before Covid and I worked 3 days a week.
hi i have to do everything inside and out except cook as he has the bonus of copd which leaves him very breathless, .i try to do small things each day if it takes me 2 attempts then so be it. the house gets clean and the grass gets cut. i have a bad back so sometimes have to take the day off. there is always tomorrow.Thank you. My main error is expecting too much of him. I take on projects like pressure washing the driveway then getting frustrated when he's going round in circles and I'm exhausted trying to actually finish. I have to remember that even planting carrots is a challenge for him! I must've keep it simple...Simplify Simplify and enjoy the simplest life. Can't just let the house go completely though ..I do get something time to myself.