It is unfair, Maisy Moo. I have been running around after/lying awake at night worrying about/spending all my free time on my parents - now just my mum - for about 8 years. I am so fed up with the relentlessness of it - and mum's in a care home, I don't know how people cope who care 24/7. I have a full time job and 2 kids - daughter with a life limiting disability - as well.
Mum is, apart from dementia, very well indeed. She could go on like this for many years yet. She puts so much effort into making me feel guilty and pushing me to spend more time with her.
But. Her mum was in the then equivalent of a care home, having moved to the other end of the country to be near us. Mum visited once a week, and not at all for 8 weeks in the summer so she could have a break.
In mum's head now, she cared tirelessly for her mother, and her aunt (who she never visited at all)
At my age (55) she was retired, with a very high standard of living (nice holiday home, eating out 3 times a week etc) and no responsibilities for anyone else.
Yet whatever I do isn't enough. It's hard to admit but I really don't like her much some days
Mum is, apart from dementia, very well indeed. She could go on like this for many years yet. She puts so much effort into making me feel guilty and pushing me to spend more time with her.
But. Her mum was in the then equivalent of a care home, having moved to the other end of the country to be near us. Mum visited once a week, and not at all for 8 weeks in the summer so she could have a break.
In mum's head now, she cared tirelessly for her mother, and her aunt (who she never visited at all)
At my age (55) she was retired, with a very high standard of living (nice holiday home, eating out 3 times a week etc) and no responsibilities for anyone else.
Yet whatever I do isn't enough. It's hard to admit but I really don't like her much some days