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  1. Jaded'n'faded

    Jaded'n'faded Registered User

    Jan 23, 2019
    528
    Female
    High Peak
    Mum died this morning.

    As you can see from my previous posts, I knew something was different/wrong. She'd continued to be 'unwell' for 2 weeks but nothing specific. I got a call on Saturday night to say her SATS were down and they'd called the doc. He came out and diagnosed a UTI but I still wasn't convinced.

    She was found dead at 7 this morning. The nurse (who found her) told me she'd actually been a bit brighter yesterday and that he'd spoken with her at 4am this morning, but obviously her time had come.

    It is 3 years since the accident that put her in the Care Home. She had dementia for at least 5 years before that, maybe as long as 10. They looked after her well and she was never ill. But she had no quality of life and was unhappy and very confused. I'm glad she didn't suffer more and relieved for my brother and I that this hasn't gone on longer.
     
  2. Woohoo

    Woohoo Registered User

    Apr 30, 2019
    386
    Female
    South East
  3. TNJJ

    TNJJ Registered User

    May 7, 2019
    793
    Female
    cornwall
  4. Palerider

    Palerider Registered User

    Aug 9, 2015
    969
    Male
    North West
  5. Sarasa

    Sarasa Registered User

    Apr 13, 2018
    624
    So sorry @Jaded'n'faded , from the stories you’ve told us about she sounded so much like my mum.
    Glad her suffering is now over, look after yourself now. (((Hugs)))
     
  6. jugglingmum

    jugglingmum Registered User

    Jan 5, 2014
    5,323
    Female
    Chester
    Sending my condolences on your loss. I'm pleased to hear her suffering is over. (((hugs)))
     
  7. anxious annie

    anxious annie Registered User

    Jan 2, 2019
    180
    Sending condolences to you and your family. Your mum is now at peace xx
     
  8. silver'lantern

    silver'lantern Registered User

    Apr 23, 2019
    157
    Female
    calm and peace. She lay down and slept.... its twin edged I am sure. Relief its done....but you lost your mum.... a hard mix of emotions. The long farewell.
    remember and share happy memories.
    Take care
     
  9. Bunpoots

    Bunpoots Registered User

    Apr 1, 2016
    3,343
    Nottinghamshire
  10. Primrose19

    Primrose19 Registered User

    Nov 27, 2016
    58
    Female
    Many condolences. As others have said, reminds me of my mum who is stuck in bed with no quality of life, so sad.
     
  11. Toony Oony

    Toony Oony Registered User

    Jun 21, 2016
    495
    My sincere sympathy to you and your family. Take comfort that your Mum's suffering has come to an end.

    X
     
  12. Lirene

    Lirene Registered User

    Sep 15, 2019
    142
    So sorry to hear about your mum, hope you are okay. Prayers being said xx
     
  13. Jaded'n'faded

    Jaded'n'faded Registered User

    Jan 23, 2019
    528
    Female
    High Peak
    Thank you everyone.

    It's been a difficult day but I'm mostly just relieved it is over for her. The last 3 years have been really awful.

    There may be a cornoner's hearing over cause of death. Mum's GP wants to put 'progression of vascular dementia' and I agree. There was nothing else wrong with mum!
     
  14. annielou

    annielou Registered User

    Sep 27, 2019
    227
    Sending love and sympathy x
     
  15. Sirena

    Sirena Registered User

    Feb 27, 2018
    1,899
    Female
    Sorry to hear your sad news. I can understand your feelings of relief, she's at peace now.
     
  16. Izzy

    Izzy Volunteer Moderator

    Aug 31, 2003
    59,942
    Female
    Dundee
    I’m so sorry to read your news, Wishing you strength.
     

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