Hi
@Pollywobble , I was in this situation last June although it wasn't ever contemplated my husband could return home even though I presented a care plan.
I hope my story will give you hope because we all need that. My husband is in a good Dementia Home he no longer hallucinates although he remains delusional. I haven't seen a psychotic episode for 3 months and our relationship is warm and companiable again.
You are in the fight of your life for your person because I was. These are the things that give you weapons. Use the words vulnerable adult again and again. Paint a picture of the dangers around your local area if he got out in the middle of the night and if you are told to lock the door explain graphically what happens when a frightened, pyschotic person is locked in.
Safeguarding is another key phrase and you need to use direct statements."Are you taking responsibility for my husband's safety, can I see your risk assessment document"
I know how hard it is and how exhausting when you are in the middle of a grief process but you can do it.
I personally didn't quote my own safety as by that time I decided they didn't give a "rat's axxx " about me but actually the pyschiatric team did quote the risk to me.
Keep going he can have a better life with treatment and the right placement and so can you.