Hi everyone it is nice to communicate with people in the same circumstance as myself. I look after both my Mam and Dad. Dad at 90 has severe vascular dementia while Mam at 88 has medium alzheimer's disease. They have lived with me for the last 51/2 years when they moved into my home so I could help Mam care for Dad. It was then I realised she was unwell and she was diagnosed with Alzheimer's. Over 21/2 years ago Dad deteriorated and has been unable to talk, walk, is incontinent, has to be changed, fed and generally have everything done for him. I do have carers who come for 30mins 3 times a day to help me dress and change Dad. Mam on the other had looks after herself reasonably well with prompts but her memory of anything only lasts minutes and she is now starting to forget where she is and what she is doing. I have had to leave work to look after them as it is a full time job in itself. My partner - who does not live with me - is a good support but is limited to how much he can do. I have not had a break other than my social time of 2 hours every other Friday and am now struggling to cope. I have tried to find about respite live in care so I could have a few days away from the pressure. Does anyone have experience of live-in care?