hi everyone its been a few months since i posted last time(before xmas) just wanted to know some peoples thoughts . dad was in hospital in october last year ,he had a chest infection. it was during his stay in hospital that dads ad deteriated making it obvious that mum could no longer cope with him at home. after 6 weeks he was put in a care home. the hospital and social services told me and mum that we would have a choice of homes to look at and have time to view each one but as things turned out we had a phone call saying that he was to be assessed by one care home and the next day he was moved. luckilythe home is lovely. the carers are fantastic and dad , although he tells me differently seems to be settling down. sometimes when we visit dad has got the right hump asking mum where the hell shes been all day? no one talks to im he says and hes never been so lonely. hearing this breaks my heart but i know the carers are always talking to him and they say he is such a funny man , which he was , always joking and laughin. we sit in his room watchin old bing crosby films that he can remember all the songs to and yet he cant remember or grasp the fact that he is no longer at home with mum, but thirty miles away from us. he asked me the other day if the war was over yet? which of corse i told him it was and he smiled as if d day was yesterday then he gets all upset when he realises his mum , brother and mother and father in law have died. wth the exception of his brother who died in november last year all the others died many years ago. dad sometimes asks when he is cming home, he does this on his more lucid days which are sadly becoming few and far between thats when i lie to him saying that he'll be home as soon as he's better. i feel awful but i know that he wont be able to remember any of it after a few moments and it does seem to make him feel better for a moment or two. unfortunately dads ad is worsening and now a doctor that visits the home says he has a problem with his kidneys. so instead of getting better he is getting worse. of course i didnt expect him to inprove but everything seems so accelerated these days, dads getting worse and im lying more. sorry this has been a long rant hope things are ok for everyone. take care, pricey.