Mum has been doing well in her nursing home although the disease was progressing as you’d expect and she began to lose quite a lot of weight and a few other things started to deteriorate. In December I got a call that they were calling an ambulance as she had low blood pressure and was a bit unresponsive. Lo and behold it turned out to be sepsis for the third time from a UTI. We got the usual from the hospital that she’s very unwell and we should be prepared but we’ve had this conversation each time with sepsis and each time she’s amazingly recovered but her dementia took a dip. Therefore I wasn’t too worried and then a week later she was back in the nursing home thankfully. I went to visit and she didn’t really communicate at all and so I kept the visit short as I think she was still recovering and needed her rest. A couple of days later I visited on Christmas Day and again she didn’t speak and the nurse in the NH said they had struggled to get her to eat much and did I think I could try and I managed to get her to have a few Chocolates but I noticed it was taking her a long time to eat then and at times seem to hold in her mouth so let the nurse know and my mum fell asleep so we left. I then got a call the day after Boxing Day that she had covid and was okay but just to let us know and I thought that could explain her quiet behaviour and reduced appetite. About 6 days later she tested negative and I was told she was doing well. I was then feeling unwell so couldn’t visit for two weeks but went to see her yesterday and if it was possible she was even thinner. She had absolutely no recognition of me and she looked like she had lost all the light from her eyes. She didn’t speak and almost as soon as she was with us in her room she was Asleep in her wheelchair (she’s not walked since last march). She woke up for 30 seconds or so every so often to look at me and my husband and then straight back to sleep for the whole visit which she hasn’t done before. She was coughing a bit and it sounded like she was struggling a little to know how to clear her throat. I got her some water and she took it from me and held to her lips and then didn’t drink and gave it back. I then got myself a water and took a sip to almost remind her incase she needed the prompt but she wouldn’t take the water again. The Nurse then came in and said she hasn’t been eating much and she was now being given ensure compact drinks. And could I try and get her to have some as she hasn’t eaten so far that day. Every time I gave it to mum when she did open her eyes she wouldn’t take it and just closed her eyes again. She had a couple of moments where eyes closed she leaned forward in her chair and she would cross and uncross her legs over but almost forget or get too tired halfway into the movement and hold the leg in the air before dropping it down or remembering to cross it back. We stayed for a while but I felt bad like she kept waking to chrck if we were still there and I think she would rather of just sleep so we got up to go and usually she would at least look at us leaving but nothing. I then spoke to the nurse and she said mums appetite hasn’t been good since she came out of hospital and she hasn’t been singing like she usually would and wasn’t acknowledging anyone and wasn’t herself at all and that they had noticed how thin she was getting. The nurse then just left the conversation as they would keep me updated. I’ve been reading this forum for many years and know that we can’t ever put precisely timings or stages in anything as it’s just crazy how different this disease is one person to the next but I do wonder if we are perhaps heading into the slowing down process and her heading towards the end? This just feels different to other times as throughout it all she’s never really stopped eating or had such a reduced appetite even when she was in with sepsis the multiple times nurses would joke that she still had such a great appetite. Just to note as well last year she had sepsis and covid twice in two months so I so think it’s taken a toll. I feel like maybe I want to ask for more information from the nursing home but they are very trying to remain positive which is great but sometimes you just want to know what’s what. Every now and again you catch a nurse or carer whose a bit more willingly to be more open with informations. Sorry for the essay just as ever feeling lost in all this! X