Since posting last tried to see my sister (200 mile + round trip)...brother in law wouldn't let me see her although my sister was expecting me. Safeguarding now closed my case ..say they can't do anything until her gp makes a request to them. Have asked social services for the name of her surgery ...don't think this contravenes data protection. I think I have identified which surgery, could I contact and ask to speak to her gp, even if he can't disclose any detail related to my sister. I think she is getting worse and needs a carer, however her husband refuses to even discuss this.
Continuing thread on sister with dementia.
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When did you last see her? Whatdo you feel your bro in law is doing wrong/not doing?
What can you tell her GP ? That he wont let you see her? Thats not really a GP matter.
My S in Law blocks me seeing my brother- absolutely nothng I can do about it. He doesnt have dementia either, but disabled following a stroke. If I do get a rare (I mean once a year) phone call to him i lucky - its luck that she's out.
Why wont he man up? Because she has him over a barrel
What can you tell her GP ? That he wont let you see her? Thats not really a GP matter.
My S in Law blocks me seeing my brother- absolutely nothng I can do about it. He doesnt have dementia either, but disabled following a stroke. If I do get a rare (I mean once a year) phone call to him i lucky - its luck that she's out.
Why wont he man up? Because she has him over a barrel
Haven't seen her since before Covid. I reported my concerns re financial abuse by a close member of the family who is basically squatting in their house, however since controls have been put in place to a certain degree ths safeguarding people closed the case, BIL knows what he has to do to get 'squatters' out but won't do it ...I think emotional pressure from my sister ....and because I told him to do what he has been advised by Social services he how refuses to speak to me and slammed the door in my face when we did a round trip to visit. The squatters have now been in situ for 19 months ( told they could stay for 3 weeks). The pair of them live a virtually isolated lifestyle other than tge resident parasite. I think my number has been blocked on her mobile, but so far been able to speak to her via the landline. Just so frustrating.
Since I last posted my sister's Dementia has progressed. Her personal hygiene has gone to pot. The BIL sleeps all morning and I am worried that she is not getting any support. BIL will not discuss getting a carer/ care home option and when speaking to her on the phone I worry that she has gone out on her own, when she doesn't even know she is in her own home. Could I track her mobile phone to know where she is at any time?
Hello @JaniceK
It will be difficult for you to make an accurate assessment if you live so far away and are unable to see your sister personally.
It might help you to contact the National Careline for Elder Abuse
www.thenationalcareline.org
It will be difficult for you to make an accurate assessment if you live so far away and are unable to see your sister personally.
It might help you to contact the National Careline for Elder Abuse
Action on Elder Abuse
Action on Elder Abuse (AEA) is a specialist organisation that unlike other 'older people's organisations' focuses exclusively on the issue of elder abuse.
www.thenationalcareline.org
I have been able to get over to see her, however difficult to arrange. She did have a visit from social services when the person obviously from what I was told by BIL, was assessing their financial position based on what I have read online, regarding means testing ( savings etc), which makes me think the social worker was thinking about some form of care, however BIL, I think, is in denial, and uses excuses such as bad treatment in the hands of someone else
Hello and welcome from me, nothing more useful to say other than you are being read and what has the world come to?
Social isolation is a coping mechanism and maybe I was a bit guilty of it myself before my wife and mum passed away (had them both here) but never to the point I refused help, I just didn't look for it if that makes sense.
As suggested contact the helpline please. K
Social isolation is a coping mechanism and maybe I was a bit guilty of it myself before my wife and mum passed away (had them both here) but never to the point I refused help, I just didn't look for it if that makes sense.
As suggested contact the helpline please. K
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