Hi, Me and my boyfriend used to live with his parents but there splitting up so we have moved next door to his grandma who is 89 and has had dementia for 18 months my boyfriends mum refuses to take her doctors as she thinks it wont help me and my boyfriend are just under so much stress as im 21 and hes 28 if i mention we need help as were both work full time and shes by herself alot of the time he gets angry at me we fall out every week over it hes tried to tell his mum we need help but she wont listen.
Her cat died so we brought her a new one but she refuses to let it out and when we do she will walk the street for 2 hours looking under peoples cars and neighbours have noticed.she will ring her sons or other relatives crying making up stories that someone has stole her cat etc..
Also struggling to wash her and shes only had 5 baths in 4 months since weve been there we have a shower but refuses to use it.
She constantly wants someone to sit with her so i barely see my bf i cant sit with her as i just get stressed out repeating over and over and she doesnt listen to me already started accusing me of things.
i just wondered if she is taken to the doctors would medication even help at this stage or is there a way to get a carer round randomly so no one knows ive gone behind their back?
Cant live like this
Her cat died so we brought her a new one but she refuses to let it out and when we do she will walk the street for 2 hours looking under peoples cars and neighbours have noticed.she will ring her sons or other relatives crying making up stories that someone has stole her cat etc..
Also struggling to wash her and shes only had 5 baths in 4 months since weve been there we have a shower but refuses to use it.
She constantly wants someone to sit with her so i barely see my bf i cant sit with her as i just get stressed out repeating over and over and she doesnt listen to me already started accusing me of things.
i just wondered if she is taken to the doctors would medication even help at this stage or is there a way to get a carer round randomly so no one knows ive gone behind their back?
Cant live like this