i was thinking about getting a live in carer to help my mum whose dementia is getting worse . so many ins and outs to consider .
TRUST being the biggest one ,
has anyone else had a full time live in carer for their nearest and dearest ?
Just wanted to point out my mothers careers are crb vetted and known to friends of mine and having 3 as the other lady pointed out gives you flexibility .have you heard of the independant living allowance? If Ss assesses your mother you could apply for that it helps fund some hrs also careers allowance? I can't get that cos I work and earn over £100 a wkWith respect, would you advertise for a babysitter for a child on the internet?!!
I would strongly recommend that you look for a suitable agency to provide your carer introductions. There are indeed lots of ins and outs, one of which is do you want to be an employer with responsibility for recruitment, tax, NI, and public liability insurance, checking work visas and references etc. or would you rather engage self-employed professional carers who have been pre-vetted and CRB checked by the agency?
You will, sadly, find many posts on TP about how vulnerable relatives have been taken advantage of by unscrupulous people. If someone is a good, experienced, dementia-trained carer, they will in all likelihood already be registered with an agency. This provides the carer with continuity of bookings, and the security that the client's care requirements and home circumstances have been vetted by the agency. The agency will aim to match the needs of the client to the personality and experience of the live-in carers they send.
Some people do make private arrangements, especially if there is a likely carer who already knows the person to be cared for. This can be ideal, provided that some additional cover arrangements are in place, e.g. from family members.
If you are planning to have someone live in 24/7 then you will need to have more than one 'someone' because people need time off and generally carers only come for a period of 1-4 weeks at a time. I use a national agency to source carers for my mother and this has worked well for us over the last 5 years. PM me if I can provide any further answers to specific questions you have. Kind regards, Katrine
i really dont know what to do for the best . i cant make a decision .
she is getting to the point where she is going to be dangerous by herself .
so i suppose i am putting off the inevitable ! to save the family jewels .
i hate life at them moment .
what do i do . mum would not want to go in care home . everyone knows its the place you are going die .but i think she would enjoy the social side of it .
just been ringing a few . £850 a week plus !!
i cant live there 24 /7
there must be other options ..
anyone up for robbing a bank
i hate life at them moment .
what do i do . mum would not want to go in care home . everyone knows its the place you are going die .but i think she would enjoy the social side of it .
just been ringing a few . £850 a week plus !!
i cant live there 24 /7
there must be other options ..
anyone up for robbing a bank
My parents were both simultaneously diagnosed with dementia. My mother still had capacity and refused residential care - but was deemed too unsafe to manage without 24/7 care and I live miles away. They had 4 main carers working shifts from a local agency, all crb checked etc. No issues about the care, although I do think my Dad would have enjoyed the more sociable life in residential care, but if you do go down the in-home care route make an inventory of anything valuable, preferably with photographic evidence and /or cctv or recording devices. DO NOT TRUST THEM. All the valuable pieces of my mother's jewelry, other than what she was wearing when she died, disappeared, along with silverware and other items - probably £3000-4000 worth. The carers also began doing the shopping at some point with my mother's debit card and PIN (they didn't tell me - I thought they were still taking her shopping - she refused my repeated offers to do her shopping online). When the LPA came through it showed huge supermarket bills - and when my mother died my father was still apparently getting through £170-180 of groceries a week. I discovered that items were missing from their home while my Dad was dying in hospital - I suspect they waited until my Mother died, knowing my Dad couldn't communicate, so wouldn't be able to tell anyone if he did notice. The carers pretended to be such wonderful trustworthy individuals, all the while stealing and pocketing valuables - including things of huge sentimental value - belonging to two vulnerable people who were dependent on their care. I only hope my parents didn't realise what was going on. DO NOT TRUST THEM AT ALL
With respect, would you advertise for a babysitter for a child on the internet?!!
I would strongly recommend that you look for a suitable agency to provide your carer introductions. There are indeed lots of ins and outs, one of which is do you want to be an employer with responsibility for recruitment, tax, NI, and public liability insurance, checking work visas and references etc. or would you rather engage self-employed professional carers who have been pre-vetted and CRB checked by the agency?
You will, sadly, find many posts on TP about how vulnerable relatives have been taken advantage of by unscrupulous people. If someone is a good, experienced, dementia-trained carer, they will in all likelihood already be registered with an agency. This provides the carer with continuity of bookings, and the security that the client's care requirements and home circumstances have been vetted by the agency. The agency will aim to match the needs of the client to the personality and experience of the live-in carers they send.
Some people do make private arrangements, especially if there is a likely carer who already knows the person to be cared for. This can be ideal, provided that some additional cover arrangements are in place, e.g. from family members.
If you are planning to have someone live in 24/7 then you will need to have more than one 'someone' because people need time off and generally carers only come for a period of 1-4 weeks at a time. I use a national agency to source carers for my mother and this has worked well for us over the last 5 years. PM me if I can provide any further answers to specific questions you have. Kind regards, Katrine