It's the Unpredictability...

Discussion in 'I have a partner with dementia' started by optocarol, Jul 4, 2015.

  1. optocarol

    optocarol Registered User

    Nov 23, 2011
    315
    Auckland, New Zealand
    that gets me! Feeling a bit sorry for myself with a cold. OH is all solicitous asking if he can help, then later swears because I ask him to put a glass back in the sink that I was just going to wash. I think I could cope better if he were consistently nasty!

    Who knows?
     
  2. esmeralda

    esmeralda Registered User

    Nov 27, 2014
    3,072
    Devon
    Sorry you are not feeling well optocarol. I had a cold a couple of weeks ago and I found it so much harder to be tolerant, and my husand wasn't swearing at me! Not good that you have to put up with verbal abuse.
    As we all know, probably he wants to be helpful then the disease takes over.
    Hope you will be feeling better soon, and perhaps your husband will settle down. He may be disturbed that you aren't feeling well and worried that you won't be there for him. Love, Es
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  3. Silver Lining

    Silver Lining Registered User

    Nov 20, 2013
    224
    Me too .....

    When my OH was at home I told him I was going to have a lie down (just to escape really) he was very caring etc etc, about 10 minutes later he swore at me and asked if I was going to stay in bed all day!!:(:(
     
  4. Mossyanne1

    Mossyanne1 Registered User

    Feb 10, 2015
    45
    Oh I can relate to that!!


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  5. Chuggalug

    Chuggalug Registered User

    Mar 24, 2014
    8,007
    Norfolk
    I once heard someone say: "If this is love, I'd rather be hated, it's more honest!" That's not a nice statement. I forget what caused it, as it was said too many years ago, now. Obviously, someone had upset someone else who were meant to be in a close relationship, but I got like that too, in later years.

    You wouldn't cope well with constant nastiness, optocarol. I know I didn't. It's just not good for anyone. Hope that by now, you're getting the better of that cold and things are looking better, with you more able to cope.

    Your hubby is obviously trying to help where he can. This blasted disease puts paid to that. You know he doesn't mean the bad things. You know he doesn't.

    Love n hugs coming your way, xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
     
  6. optocarol

    optocarol Registered User

    Nov 23, 2011
    315
    Auckland, New Zealand
    Thanks so much everyone. Cold pretty much OK, just coughing a bit at times and OH has been as good as can be expected. :)

    I do appreciate your replies.
     

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