I have been caring for my Mum for just over a year now. She came to live with me and my partner after a diagnosis of Alzheimer's and at a time when she was phoning me constantly with fears of the central heating boiler exploding, letting people she didn't know into the house and all sorts of other worrying things. She's forgotten that now and keeps saying she wants to go back to her flat. Although she goes to day care she refuses to go into respite so my partner and I have to do most visits to family and friends separately. We have had two holidays this year when my sister has had Mum to stay with her but when I asked her to do a weekend in a couple of months time she seemed very reluctant. I love my Mum and want to do the best that I can for her last few years but my partner is quite a bit older than me and not in good health. I feel torn between my responsibilities to each of them and a growing awareness that I'm not getting any younger either. I know there isn't an easy solution but just getting it off my chest has helped. So thanks to anyone who has taken the time to read this.