Hi everyone. Mum is 85 and is incontinent with urine. I was wondering is anyone can tell me how to deal with this . She very rarely asks for the loo and usually she already done it!! Do i still ask her or take her to the loo in a regular basis? Or am i wasting my time? She wears tena lady during the day and pads at night. She gets cross with me if i keep asking. I guess her brain isnt telling her that she needs to wee so whats best to do? Any help would b great x