I have cried a river. Faked my way though my workday acting as if all was well in my life. Headed to my friend's house afterwards (this is a friend that I met when both our first husbands left us and we had the same counselor who introduced us 27 years ago.) She never remarried. Her word to me "Celebrate!" and she's a social worker who worked for Alzheimer's Association in our town. She knows what was ahead of me.
@margherita send me your address! I'm coming to help you! hahahahah just kidding. I have to work on reframing what is happening to me and my marriage.
OH called my cell at 11:11 and 11:12 today Facetime. I'm sure it was a mistake. I didn't answer. I will not answer. I will not visit. I will not answer or respond to any step daughter. I will not remind of doctor appointment Thursday for high blood pressure. I am hurt. So hurt.
Sons #1 and #2 have been the best. I think they got burned too. They did not expect this. They fought this along with me. Son #2 who is an attorney said this is no big deal, it is a legal move that doesn't affect your life yet, BUT it's the gall! (the way it happened...I was not told.) He had called OH a few months ago and told him at one point, "you are going to miss my mom." My friend kept saying, "he sure shot himself in the foot." Yes, he has dementia. The daughters don't.
Sons talked together and their conclusion is that OH whined and complained about not being in control and that I was so they just did what he wanted "New POA!"
I will not let this get me down. I will cry. I will rant. But THEY will never know. I will keep in the back of my mind the word "celebrate" and as my support group facilitator said "This is a gift. Take it."
I have much ahead of me. Will new POA sue me for OH half of my house? Will divorce be filed?
When Son #1 got the news he texted back "When he calls, say call POA" "Appointment? Call POA." They are hurt too.
Onward!