I've posted about this before and know there is no solution. I've tried every approach that has been suggested before. Dad is on his last legs looking after my mam. He says he'll consider respite - then decides against it. He says he'll consider extra carer visits - and then decides against them. He refuses to consider letting her live in a home, full stop, whilst at the same time saying he knows it'll have to happen eventually (it never will). My husband is sick of me talking about it because we just go round in circles, banging our heads against a brick wall as we go. He says I have to just let him get on with it. But it feels like watching him kill himself is also killing me and it's very, very hard. Sorry for the moan but needed to get it off my chest.