Hello everyone, I'm Julianne, and I'm a 24 year old mother of 4 young children. I'm an only child and sadly my father died in March 2000, and scince then i have seen my mothers health deteriorate. 2 years ago she was diagnosed with moderate alzimers, with carers assigned to pop in on her in the morning, meals on wheels, shopping ect as she lives on her own. I coped quite well with it all at first, but now the realisation is setting in that things are getting worse. And I'm scarred, grieving, and at a loss what to do for the best. Sorry to introduce myself on a negative note, this is a bad day! In this past week she has lost interest in food, cant be bothered to go upstairs to use the toilet, cannot operate her t.v, and just sits there doing nothing fealing low all day. I cannot persuade her to go to day care, and she is devistated over the care she recieves now, let alone incresing it! She wont let anyone assist her in bathing, although she has arthritis and cannot manage well alone. When i do manage to persuade her into the bath, she doesnt know how to wash and comes out with out using any soap or washing her hair. She wont change her clothes because she thinks she looks horrable in them. so they are dirty and smelly. I buy her new things but she refuses to wear them. She begs me to let her cope alone, but yet when left alone she becomes depressed and low and then needs me. I just dont know what to do for the best. I have no room in my own home for her, I have 3 bedrooms for a family of 6 already! I couldnt deal with it either, i know it may sound awful but i get so upset with just seing her for a little while. I cant stand seing my mum slip away before my very eyes knowing she will never return. I try my best to put on a brave face for her, but its so hard. Sorry everyone, you have enough problems of your own! My heart goes out to everyone out there dealing with this kind of problem. Its awful. I'm off to read the other postings, and i wish you all the very best. Thanks for taking the time to read this, i just had to get it off my chest.