Hello, I was going to post a long financial post related to both my mothers and my finances but decided I'd start with a post about my financial situation as a carer and see if anyone has any views, recommendation or can raise anything I may have missed.
Fifthteen month ago I started caring for my mother the day my father died, two weeks later she was officially diagnosed as having Alzheimer's. Some time later I became an official carer.
Prior to my world turning upside down I had run my own IT related company and things were going along fairly well. I was living by myself in my own house a few miles from my parents. I was slowly working on the house and getting it in to a good state of repair bit by bit. Overnight things changed, I had to drop all work and move in to my mothers house. She couldn't really be left alone at the time and certainly can't now.
So here I am, 15 months later still caring for my mother who obviously is getting slowly more difficult to manage. Her sister helps when she can but has her own family medical issues. My mother visits a moments cafe (2hrs) once a week and attends a day center once a week. I have thought about getting a carer in but my mother other than having a terrible memory especially short term is otherwise still fairly with it and I think (know) she would bulk at the idea.
I had powers of attorney since day one, and took over my mothers finances, this involved managing her bank savings and bills but also transfering my late fathers savings and SIPP to her. I also got Attendance Allowance sorted, blue badge, Council Tax for my house was reduced to 0% and my mothers has been reduced by 50%. I now receive carers allowance of £76pw
Obviously the £76 carers allowance isn't enough to live on as I am still having to fuel the car, pay insurance on the car and house, pay bills on my house (boiler set to min to stop damp) .......... So in short over the last 15 months I've had very little coming in and have been living off my savings which has shrunk by a fair bit. As far as I can tell I can't claim anything else because I have savings but I am worried that over time these will dwindle and my nest egg will disappear, money I planned on using for holidays, buying good and was due for my own retirement.
After a few chats with her sister I decided that I should take half of the attendance allowance money because I was paying for all the fuel driving mom around, paying a lot of the bills for coffee shops and such like. I was also obviously looking after her house, living in her house, doing the gardening, the cooking, the shopping and so on.
It has been mentioned I could take up to £3000 out of moms account each year tax free but even though I have powers of attorney I'm not sure how I feel about this. The idea was it gives me some extra cash but also reduces moms savings in a legitimate way. Mom isn't very financially savvy so even trying to discuss this with her is difficult.
So here I am looking for idea's as to what I can do, if anything. Is there anything I've missed ?
I should mention if I was to return to work I would have to work 5 days a week otherwise it just wouldn't work out.
Thanks for any info.
Steve
Fifthteen month ago I started caring for my mother the day my father died, two weeks later she was officially diagnosed as having Alzheimer's. Some time later I became an official carer.
Prior to my world turning upside down I had run my own IT related company and things were going along fairly well. I was living by myself in my own house a few miles from my parents. I was slowly working on the house and getting it in to a good state of repair bit by bit. Overnight things changed, I had to drop all work and move in to my mothers house. She couldn't really be left alone at the time and certainly can't now.
So here I am, 15 months later still caring for my mother who obviously is getting slowly more difficult to manage. Her sister helps when she can but has her own family medical issues. My mother visits a moments cafe (2hrs) once a week and attends a day center once a week. I have thought about getting a carer in but my mother other than having a terrible memory especially short term is otherwise still fairly with it and I think (know) she would bulk at the idea.
I had powers of attorney since day one, and took over my mothers finances, this involved managing her bank savings and bills but also transfering my late fathers savings and SIPP to her. I also got Attendance Allowance sorted, blue badge, Council Tax for my house was reduced to 0% and my mothers has been reduced by 50%. I now receive carers allowance of £76pw
Obviously the £76 carers allowance isn't enough to live on as I am still having to fuel the car, pay insurance on the car and house, pay bills on my house (boiler set to min to stop damp) .......... So in short over the last 15 months I've had very little coming in and have been living off my savings which has shrunk by a fair bit. As far as I can tell I can't claim anything else because I have savings but I am worried that over time these will dwindle and my nest egg will disappear, money I planned on using for holidays, buying good and was due for my own retirement.
After a few chats with her sister I decided that I should take half of the attendance allowance money because I was paying for all the fuel driving mom around, paying a lot of the bills for coffee shops and such like. I was also obviously looking after her house, living in her house, doing the gardening, the cooking, the shopping and so on.
It has been mentioned I could take up to £3000 out of moms account each year tax free but even though I have powers of attorney I'm not sure how I feel about this. The idea was it gives me some extra cash but also reduces moms savings in a legitimate way. Mom isn't very financially savvy so even trying to discuss this with her is difficult.
So here I am looking for idea's as to what I can do, if anything. Is there anything I've missed ?
I should mention if I was to return to work I would have to work 5 days a week otherwise it just wouldn't work out.
Thanks for any info.
Steve