Hello Everyone
I am not a regular "poster" but read the message board every day and am constantly humbled by the messages that are posted and the amount of love and support that is demonstrated. My dilemma is this:
My darling mum was diagnosed with ?AD ?VD ?both about 2 years ago. For a while she and her close friend (who lived nearby) struggled on, but it was increasingly obvious he was not coping with the memory loss etc etc and to cut a long, distressing story short we all agreed that she would move into residential care near to me. This happened nearly a year ago.
Since then she has improved (physically) tremendously. She had mobility problems due to an unrelated condition which have improved due to regular physio at the home which is very nice by the way. Although we are all aware that this condition only goes in one direction (mum, me and my husband are all nurses) her general condition has improved to the point where I am wondering should I now care for her at home with day care at the Residential Home maybe three times a week and respite care as required. She comes home with me at least once a week and is fine, in fact the only times I see her depressed and tearful is at the care home when she gets frustrated that other ladies are calling out and also with her non existant memory.
My question is this: does anyone have any experience of night sitters, carers during the day etc? We are prepared to care for her, physically she requires very little input, but are aware that it is a big tie and so want to have a care package in place. She is very lucky that she has no money worries so could pay for someone to be with her. She is adamant that if this move happened she would want a self contained area (good idea) so we could continue to have our privacy. This would involve a house move but that is not a problem for us really.
Should I consider this, or should I be content that at present she is safe, well cared for and content most of the time? Sorry to ask, just need another perspective.
Best wishes to all
Dee
I am not a regular "poster" but read the message board every day and am constantly humbled by the messages that are posted and the amount of love and support that is demonstrated. My dilemma is this:
My darling mum was diagnosed with ?AD ?VD ?both about 2 years ago. For a while she and her close friend (who lived nearby) struggled on, but it was increasingly obvious he was not coping with the memory loss etc etc and to cut a long, distressing story short we all agreed that she would move into residential care near to me. This happened nearly a year ago.
Since then she has improved (physically) tremendously. She had mobility problems due to an unrelated condition which have improved due to regular physio at the home which is very nice by the way. Although we are all aware that this condition only goes in one direction (mum, me and my husband are all nurses) her general condition has improved to the point where I am wondering should I now care for her at home with day care at the Residential Home maybe three times a week and respite care as required. She comes home with me at least once a week and is fine, in fact the only times I see her depressed and tearful is at the care home when she gets frustrated that other ladies are calling out and also with her non existant memory.
My question is this: does anyone have any experience of night sitters, carers during the day etc? We are prepared to care for her, physically she requires very little input, but are aware that it is a big tie and so want to have a care package in place. She is very lucky that she has no money worries so could pay for someone to be with her. She is adamant that if this move happened she would want a self contained area (good idea) so we could continue to have our privacy. This would involve a house move but that is not a problem for us really.
Should I consider this, or should I be content that at present she is safe, well cared for and content most of the time? Sorry to ask, just need another perspective.
Best wishes to all
Dee