Hi, I am new here. My Mum has vascular dementia and is in an EMI residential home which is very good. She's been in the home for two years now. I know at this time of year there are a lot of bugs and things going around but just lately Mum seems to be sick a lot. Generally she is in good health and always looks well but for the past week she's been sick a few times and it really makes me worry. Its as if I can't function properly until she is OK again. This morning I called in to see her and she was fine, then I called in again tonight on my way out to find her being sick so I couldn't go out then and leave her like that, I knew I couldn't settle when I was out so I stayed with her until she went to bed. She seemed fine by the time I left her and I have just rang the home now and they say she is fine. It could be a bug again but she only had one last weekend. Also, at the home the carers say it could be that she's had a little drink over Xmas and all the rich food and with her tablets aswell thats made her sick. They've made a note now not to give her any alcohol at all as she is on some antibiotics that you're not supposed to drink with. Its just a constant worry, do any of you find yourselves unable to cope when your loved ones are ill?