I've not been on here since Feb this year as been full on looking after both my parents..... Mum with diebetes and amputee and dad with alzeimers..
Mum passed away unexpectedly end of May which was a total shock for all and so I had to move in straight away to look after dad. He was completely shocked but also didn't know what was going on as he didn't get the chance to speak to mum before she went to hospital..... She was gone by the following morning.
Poor dad couldn't understand she had gone... We had to wait 7wks for the funeral which was so hard having to tell him everyday that she'd gone as he was asking for her. He couldn't go to her funeral as he was so weak and poorly so I stayed with him and we watched it on the TV..... Very weird.
It's 7 months since mum went.... And last week we lost dad. The latter stages of his alzeimers was so painful to watch and he was put on a driver which he kept going for 9 days without food or drink. The most horrific thing I have ever witnessed.... To watch your loved one that you've cared for for years just firstly dissappear through memory then to be put through torment after torment..... Then to see them so helpless... Completely out of it... No response. No nothing just a shell laying there. So so cruel that you wouldn't let an animal suffer like that. I witnessed an awful death and I hope to god that nobody else has to go through that.
They tell me that he could still hear me.... How do they know that!!! Which makes it even worse.... For me it was like him being buried alive and I could do absolutely NOTHING to help him. Awful just awful. To lose both parents in 7 months is just too much to bare.
Please tell me it gets easier because right now I'm just numb. ??????
Mum passed away unexpectedly end of May which was a total shock for all and so I had to move in straight away to look after dad. He was completely shocked but also didn't know what was going on as he didn't get the chance to speak to mum before she went to hospital..... She was gone by the following morning.
Poor dad couldn't understand she had gone... We had to wait 7wks for the funeral which was so hard having to tell him everyday that she'd gone as he was asking for her. He couldn't go to her funeral as he was so weak and poorly so I stayed with him and we watched it on the TV..... Very weird.
It's 7 months since mum went.... And last week we lost dad. The latter stages of his alzeimers was so painful to watch and he was put on a driver which he kept going for 9 days without food or drink. The most horrific thing I have ever witnessed.... To watch your loved one that you've cared for for years just firstly dissappear through memory then to be put through torment after torment..... Then to see them so helpless... Completely out of it... No response. No nothing just a shell laying there. So so cruel that you wouldn't let an animal suffer like that. I witnessed an awful death and I hope to god that nobody else has to go through that.
They tell me that he could still hear me.... How do they know that!!! Which makes it even worse.... For me it was like him being buried alive and I could do absolutely NOTHING to help him. Awful just awful. To lose both parents in 7 months is just too much to bare.
Please tell me it gets easier because right now I'm just numb. ??????