Yes, questioning everything, and taking the hump if he feels it’s an implied criticism, i get told what to do and even get grabbed by the wrist and hauled across the road when we’re out when HE judges it safe to cross😳 My knee and hip can be a bit iffy and I can’t hurry like I used to especially if I needed to suddenly make a dash for it. I know I couldn’t. . But he won’t listen, tells me to get a move on, hurry up while I wail that I can’t hurry any more than this. God knows what any passer by must think.I so identify with you!
My other half NEVER swore when our children were young and rarely if ever used really bad language ever. Now he uses bad language all the time. It is SO hard to not take it personally when I'm told how effing stupid I am. He questions EVERYTHING I do. I get told what to do, how to do it and when to do it. Whilst driving he sounds just like Hyacinth Bouquet = mind that gate. there are cows in that field, there are trees hanging over the road! I do have an outsize sense of humour but on a bad day it is unbearable.
On the other hand HE will not be told or advised about ANYTHING. Today he scraped the car with his mobility scooter because he would not wait for me to move other obstacles or be advised that the gap was not wide enough.
Stay strong - sharing the hard times helps. we all have so much experience to share.
Best wishes.
Thank god we no longer have a car. He used to drive and whilst I did have a licence, I was always extremely nervous about driving and I’ve now let it lapse. In any case, if I drove him around it’d be exactly the same situation as you have. I suppose it was your fault in some way when he scraped the car? ! It’s so good to share and find we aren’t alone.