Good evening.
My first post here looking for advice please.
My husband is 75 and is in the late stages of dementia I have cared for him at home since diagnosis in 2019. The last year he has got worse and I had to pay for carers to come in and help due to him fighting me and him no longer allowing me to care for him. He can no longer walk unaided, he can't speak, I feed him, he is double incontinent and definitely doesn't recognise me. He sleeps all day slouched in a chair but very restless at night. He has started getting aggressive with carers for personal care and started swearing which just isn't like him. I feel his quality of life is minimal and I can't leave him to go out. I am so lonely, but also feel like I owe to my husband to care for him as I am still able.
My son and his wife are due a baby in the new year my first grandchild. Him and his sister visit frequently but have both said they feel their dad would he better off in a care home so I can live my life and enjoy my first grandchild, but the thought of a care home and not having control makes me anxious, even though I feel trapped at home. Dilemma. Whilst I don't want to miss out on my grandbaby, I also took vows and devoted to my husband I feel like care home is me giving up on him.
My first post here looking for advice please.
My husband is 75 and is in the late stages of dementia I have cared for him at home since diagnosis in 2019. The last year he has got worse and I had to pay for carers to come in and help due to him fighting me and him no longer allowing me to care for him. He can no longer walk unaided, he can't speak, I feed him, he is double incontinent and definitely doesn't recognise me. He sleeps all day slouched in a chair but very restless at night. He has started getting aggressive with carers for personal care and started swearing which just isn't like him. I feel his quality of life is minimal and I can't leave him to go out. I am so lonely, but also feel like I owe to my husband to care for him as I am still able.
My son and his wife are due a baby in the new year my first grandchild. Him and his sister visit frequently but have both said they feel their dad would he better off in a care home so I can live my life and enjoy my first grandchild, but the thought of a care home and not having control makes me anxious, even though I feel trapped at home. Dilemma. Whilst I don't want to miss out on my grandbaby, I also took vows and devoted to my husband I feel like care home is me giving up on him.