Hello, I'm new to these forums and would like to say what a fantastic community this is.
I have been looking after my 90yo mother, who has been slowly declining for several years, but has declined very rapidly in recent months. She now has advanced dementia and is currently in hospital, soon to be in residential care (hope).
When I spend time with her, I apply the "Compassionate Communication" recommendations which are really helpful. Talking with her can be challenging, sometimes she can be nice and we have a good, pleasant chat and I enjoy her company. At other times she can become very spiteful and aggressive towards me. I find the latter very unpleasant and hard to deal with, I really find it quite hurtful and upsetting to be honest. My only defence mechanism is to leave the room but I feel terrible for doing that, feeling like I'm walking out on her or abandoning or similar and being a terrible carer.
I'd be interested to know if anyone has found any alternative ways of dealing with that situation?
I have been looking after my 90yo mother, who has been slowly declining for several years, but has declined very rapidly in recent months. She now has advanced dementia and is currently in hospital, soon to be in residential care (hope).
When I spend time with her, I apply the "Compassionate Communication" recommendations which are really helpful. Talking with her can be challenging, sometimes she can be nice and we have a good, pleasant chat and I enjoy her company. At other times she can become very spiteful and aggressive towards me. I find the latter very unpleasant and hard to deal with, I really find it quite hurtful and upsetting to be honest. My only defence mechanism is to leave the room but I feel terrible for doing that, feeling like I'm walking out on her or abandoning or similar and being a terrible carer.
I'd be interested to know if anyone has found any alternative ways of dealing with that situation?