Hello all, this is my first post here and firstly I want to send love to everyone living in this relentless, all consuming, soul crushing limbo.
I have been loosing my mum repeatedly over the past 2 years, she is 63 and has Lewy body dementia - the decline has been so rapid and yet has felt, at some points - so painfully slow as I’m sure many can relate to.
She is currently living in a care home (after I was no longer able to care for her safely at home, opening the can of worms of that guilt can be saved for another day!) She can’t walk, talk, is fully incontinent and is now struggling to swallow. At what point are we able (with a DNR in place) to make this end? Do we have to wait until she has wasted away even more? Is there anyway to expedite the inevitable and save her from further indignity and us from further trauma? When there is no hope why do we have to prolong this so called “life”?
I am sure many here have felt the same and wondered if anyone had any experience or advice on how to help speed up the process with the authorities and allow all of us to finally be at peace?
Thank you for your support and I return it wholeheartedly and hope everyone here is finally allowed to grieve the loss they have been dealing with from the moment their loved one was taken away by this cruel and inhumane disease.
Sending love x
I have been loosing my mum repeatedly over the past 2 years, she is 63 and has Lewy body dementia - the decline has been so rapid and yet has felt, at some points - so painfully slow as I’m sure many can relate to.
She is currently living in a care home (after I was no longer able to care for her safely at home, opening the can of worms of that guilt can be saved for another day!) She can’t walk, talk, is fully incontinent and is now struggling to swallow. At what point are we able (with a DNR in place) to make this end? Do we have to wait until she has wasted away even more? Is there anyway to expedite the inevitable and save her from further indignity and us from further trauma? When there is no hope why do we have to prolong this so called “life”?
I am sure many here have felt the same and wondered if anyone had any experience or advice on how to help speed up the process with the authorities and allow all of us to finally be at peace?
Thank you for your support and I return it wholeheartedly and hope everyone here is finally allowed to grieve the loss they have been dealing with from the moment their loved one was taken away by this cruel and inhumane disease.
Sending love x