Hi I'm new to this forum and to be honest haven't got any family to help me so struggling with the progression of this god forsaken illness. My lovely mum who has always took pride in herself, her house and her family has now changed in to someone who hates me , won't let me clean and is refusing personal care. I have promised her since diagnosis (4 years ago) that I will make sure she lives independently in her house until her health becomes a hazard and makes it unsafe for her to live there. She is forgetting to eat and losing weight , she has 3 carers go in a day but it just seems to anger her . My question is when do you decide to finally say its better for them to be in a care home and be able to live with yourself ? Some days that person I know and love is still there , talking to me as a daughter yet other I am the devil incarnate. Social services do there best but are overwhelmed and won't get involved until she falls and gets taken into hospital . Any help or advice would be appreciated