One thing in a nursing home - different living with someone and sharing said washbasin!!When my father was in residential care he used the wash basin in his room as a urinal. The care staff didn’t seem surprised about it!
One thing in a nursing home - different living with someone and sharing said washbasin!!When my father was in residential care he used the wash basin in his room as a urinal. The care staff didn’t seem surprised about it!
I think the problem there would be just like pullups, these men are not truly incontinent, they know they want a pee, but their confusion is very like a drunk person any place which to them looks vaguely suitable will do. I visited a care home today and the manager told me they are often attracted by red, and will pee on the fire extinguishers. Such a horrible and degrading illness...There is a product called Conveen sheaths, which although I doubt could be used all the time, might be a short term solution.
Very true though would much rather the washbasin than the carpets.One thing in a nursing home - different living with someone and sharing said washbasin!!
I have found incontinent pull ups useful as he needs more time to find penis. Am also thinking of getting a light for inside the toilet bow. Sounds terribly unhygienic but may work.
As others have said regular toilet breaks and noticing when he gets fidgety is best policy.
I sympathise with you thinking of care home - I am too.
Hi, My husband pees everywhere too. He wears pull ups and I have a "bluey" with a home made sheet over it as he wets the bed (despite the pull ups). He has MSA which is like Motor Neurone disease but you get dementia with it and has started undressing in the lounge room and defecating in the shower or all over the toilet. He gets it on the walls and all as his balance is poor. I am feeling very worn out with all the cleaning and constant vigilance. He refuses respite care.Thanks and to Sandra and JJ for your comments. I have kept it in check in the last few days by being super vigilant, toilet every two hours and up when I hear him get out of bed to ensure he goes to the loo.
This isnt a way to live though. Nor frankly is it a way to 'test' it, but I am worried for my lovely just two year old stair carpet!! I went to view a care home today and manager said she thinks he needs to be in a specialist dementia facility. She said that some also go on to defecate in inappropriate places.
What an awful illness this is...
I visited a care home today and the manager told me they are often attracted by red, and will pee on the fire extinguishers.
I have seen many times on here that we all get to the stage where our OH's refusal of respite actually becomes 'need' rather than 'wishes' - and we make the decision for them. There is no respite around here,so that is not an issue, but I quite often tell him that the Dr has made whatever the decision might be - takes the blame off me.......Hi, My husband pees everywhere too. He wears pull ups and I have a "bluey" with a home made sheet over it as he wets the bed (despite the pull ups). He has MSA which is like Motor Neurone disease but you get dementia with it and has started undressing in the lounge room and defecating in the shower or all over the toilet. He gets it on the walls and all as his balance is poor. I am feeling very worn out with all the cleaning and constant vigilance. He refuses respite care.
Have you had a carers assessment? Have you thought about getting a care agency to help with all the cleaning etc - it will take some of the pressure off you.Hi, My husband pees everywhere too. He wears pull ups and I have a "bluey" with a home made sheet over it as he wets the bed (despite the pull ups). He has MSA which is like Motor Neurone disease but you get dementia with it and has started undressing in the lounge room and defecating in the shower or all over the toilet. He gets it on the walls and all as his balance is poor. I am feeling very worn out with all the cleaning and constant vigilance. He refuses respite care.
Hi Roseleigh:Something I am quite unprepared for: tonight OH just randomly ******on front door mat! I have been mentally prepared for incontinence as he moves into more severe dementia, but he is not incontinent, his clothing was dry, he clearly just pulled his penis out and peed on the doormat. He realised afterwards he'd done wrong, but I just sense it will happen again. He is so confused.
How can one handle this problem since nappies are no solution? It's behavioural, and worse than urinary incontinence.
Hi Roseleigh:
I know exactly how you feel, my husband does the same thing only he wets his pants first, it's so hard to believe he doesn't do it on purpose just to annoy me. But I know he is so confused, my husband has done it in kitchen, on carpet, on stairs, in bedroom, on bed and the list goes on & on. I know ne doesn't know where he is most times, he doesn't know up from down anymore, his doctor says to put pictures on bathroom door but when you have to go you have to go & you don't have time to look at pictures on door. Wish I had some ideas for you but when it's the brain connections that are gone there's really not much you can do. Sending you much love, many cyber hugs & extra patience.
Take care.
Hi Rosseleigh:Hi dancer, and thanks for your kind words. I too have put a toilet picture on door but am mostly just ensuring that I take him frequently. This is working at present but very exhausting to be on alert. I don't know how you cope when its combined with urge incontinence. Are you not tempted by care home?
Interesting you mention confusion over up/down as my hb is just the same we have a three storey house and he is always confused if I tell him tto go up or down stairs as well as pulling his trousers up or down.
He had a terrible night last night, up and down stairs until 4 am, being abusive and hallucinating ppl in the house as well as delusions about a long-not-visited relative planned meeting with him.
In the end I went to bed leaving him in living room talking to mirror, praying that when I woke there'd be no breakages or puddles (which to my rellef there werent, light left on in loo may have worked}
I think he will be exhausted tonight (I hope), he seems to have gone to sleep. Fingers crossed.
This makes me realise just how lucky I am. I bought pull-ups for my husband and called them his "posh pants" and he is so like a child that he just accepted them. I have to supervise him changing them and putting them on, but that's nothing compared to the problem others are having.I guess it helps if they wear incontinence pads but he refuses to
Hi jenniferjean:This makes me realise just how lucky I am. I bought pull-ups for my husband and called them his "posh pants" and he is so like a child that he just accepted them. I have to supervise him changing them and putting them on, but that's nothing compared to the problem others are having.
That's so grim. Do you think you struggled on too long? One care home manager told me he thought many people do.It does sound unpleasant and using the washbasin afterwards may make you shudder even after a good clean. Sprayable toilet cleaner with bleach is useful. You may just have to learn to live with it. At least he is not stuffing faeces down the washbasin plughole as my wife used to do. That wasn't so easy to wash away but at least I had a separate basin in the shower room for my own use (and eventually had to lock the door to that room). It is a sadly familiar tale.
That's so grim. Do you think you struggled on too long? One care home manager told me he thought many people do.
I am thinking this. Paid staff who can go home when their work is over are better placed to be patient than ground down family carers, plus CHs are set up with all the equipment they need for PWDs difficult needs.Yes I do and that is one reason that I am keen to emphasise that care homes can offer a much better option than struggling on alone. My wife is safer and better looked after now she is in her care home and I am less stressed. I miss her being here but in truth she wasn't here in any meaningful way for at least a year before she went into residential care.