My husband has ftd and vascular dementia. I look after my five year old grandson regularly after school, before he went to school I cared for him much more so he has grown up having Grandad around. They used to enjoy doing some things together but my husband no longer seems to be able to tolerate our grandson and is either unable or unwilling to do things with him. If asked to do something he will either say he can't or doesn't know how to. Sometimes he will just sleep or appear to ignoreignore, if our grandson becomes louder the volume on the TV is turned up. He constantly complains about his behaviour and tells him he's naughty which is very unhelpful. Sometimes out grandson asks if he can watch a children's TV programme but my husband is unwilling to allow this. All of this creates a very difficult atmosphere and I worry is affecting the relationship I have with our grandson. I feel as though I'm dealing with two children and am constantly trying to keep the peace. I've tried to explain to our grandson that grandad isn't very well but I don't think he can really understand. Unfortunately he has experienced grandad becoming annoyed with me which I feel isn't good for him, I've had to try to explain that it isn't his fault and grandad isn't cross with him and it's because he's not well. I'm just not sure that I have the words or have explained it in the right way. I know this is only going to become more difficult as my husband deteriorated but I can only hope that as our grandson gets older he will be able to understand better. Our grandson is a very lovely little boy and tends to flit from one activity to another which I can cope with on my own but my husband finds this difficult. I've tried to think of ways to cope with this but find it very stressful. I have been very unwell with depression and only just beginning to manage having our grandson again. I don't want to feel I can't do it again because I really enjoy being with him and feel it's good for me. Does anyone have any advice or suggestions please?