I'm an only child, but have a wonderful husband so together we muddle along with Mum. We moved her down to Southsea to a retirement flat so she could be nearer to us, this was Aug last year. Despite having Alzheimer's for over 4 years she threw herself into everything we suggested, she was amazing she joined singing groups, chair exercise and a few other things.
Then in December she had a cataract op, caught a nasty cold and then got a tooth/mouth infection. Life/Mum has changed dramatically.
She now has practically no short term memory so even if I have spent the day with her (I'm her carer so there everyday) she will call 10-20 from when I get home. I do all her meals for her and have to remind her every night to take her meds. She only showers or changes her clothes if I suggest it. I think she has gone off me lol as I'm always the one suggesting how she might do things. The hardest thing is not having any spare time for our family and not being able to get away. I think I would be able to manage if I could get the occasional respite.
I have contacted social services but there is a long waiting list to be assessed. They have said they will assess us both together as this will be quicker but that was over a month ago?
Then in December she had a cataract op, caught a nasty cold and then got a tooth/mouth infection. Life/Mum has changed dramatically.
She now has practically no short term memory so even if I have spent the day with her (I'm her carer so there everyday) she will call 10-20 from when I get home. I do all her meals for her and have to remind her every night to take her meds. She only showers or changes her clothes if I suggest it. I think she has gone off me lol as I'm always the one suggesting how she might do things. The hardest thing is not having any spare time for our family and not being able to get away. I think I would be able to manage if I could get the occasional respite.
I have contacted social services but there is a long waiting list to be assessed. They have said they will assess us both together as this will be quicker but that was over a month ago?