My sister has had alzheimer's for 6 years now , she recently went into respite as her husband is not coping , she was very upset and distressed by this , she then came home after 2 weeks, then suddenly without notifying her sisters my neice who has power of attorney placed my sister in full time dementia care , we were all devastated , she's unhappy there , but there nothing we can do apart from making sure every day that she knows we are there for her , it breaks my heart leaving her she's the eldest of four girls and been a midwife all her life caring for all of us , she's a gentle kind person and does not deserve this , we are so cross with the husband's side of the family as they say she's not there anymore , how can they say that , we are all so upset for the way they have behaved .