How does anyone come to terms with the non adapting mindset of their family who didnt even accept they are getting old let alone alzheimers? I know I cant force change on my parents but would like to put a safety net under them. I am struggling to find ways to accept they dont want this and I wonder if they are covering up more than I realise.
5 months on after my dad got his diagnosis (and prob 2 years since I voiced concerns), my parents are still rejecting it.
Im please they are up and doing as always but not making even tiny adjustments
Their unrealistic approach means dad will go shopping in a blizzard when they have 2 chest freezers and a fridge full of food and dad will insist on putting washing to dry in the loft despite having a much safer spare bedroom with clothes horses in...
He thinks this is fighting it and he is perfectly capable and mum is just used to him doing everything for her and prefers to bury her head in the sand. She refuses to even use her inhaler and neither accept when her breathing is bad and that her ankles are v swollen.
They are working on lpas and i have got them some help with the attendance allowance form which they are pleased about.
My dad is the only one who could use a computer and i have managed to get them a much cheaper broadband package which they like too but my dad keeps putting off using the computer to check emsils..he cant google or use websites.
They both get v sensitive if me and my brother make alternative suggestions which they see as intefering... so they muddleon through.
They have always been a good team with v traditional roles but i feel this v unrealistic and unreflective approach could lead to bigger difficulties in the future and then social services will rightly take over (which they will hate)
Unfortunately dad damaged his car and is not allowed to drive anymore. Mum hasnt driven in decades. Im relieved we dont have to have the discussions about safe driving anymore. But even that accident did not encourage reflection about getting old... but it did with the medics which eventually led to the diagnosis. Something I had guessed at several years ago.
5 months on after my dad got his diagnosis (and prob 2 years since I voiced concerns), my parents are still rejecting it.
Im please they are up and doing as always but not making even tiny adjustments
Their unrealistic approach means dad will go shopping in a blizzard when they have 2 chest freezers and a fridge full of food and dad will insist on putting washing to dry in the loft despite having a much safer spare bedroom with clothes horses in...
He thinks this is fighting it and he is perfectly capable and mum is just used to him doing everything for her and prefers to bury her head in the sand. She refuses to even use her inhaler and neither accept when her breathing is bad and that her ankles are v swollen.
They are working on lpas and i have got them some help with the attendance allowance form which they are pleased about.
My dad is the only one who could use a computer and i have managed to get them a much cheaper broadband package which they like too but my dad keeps putting off using the computer to check emsils..he cant google or use websites.
They both get v sensitive if me and my brother make alternative suggestions which they see as intefering... so they muddleon through.
They have always been a good team with v traditional roles but i feel this v unrealistic and unreflective approach could lead to bigger difficulties in the future and then social services will rightly take over (which they will hate)
Unfortunately dad damaged his car and is not allowed to drive anymore. Mum hasnt driven in decades. Im relieved we dont have to have the discussions about safe driving anymore. But even that accident did not encourage reflection about getting old... but it did with the medics which eventually led to the diagnosis. Something I had guessed at several years ago.