Help with bathroom problems

Discussion in 'I have a partner with dementia' started by goodtotalkC, Jun 5, 2015.

  1. goodtotalkC

    goodtotalkC Registered User

    May 2, 2015
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    Can anyone help me with my OH need to visit the bathroom ( sometimes with little misses-problems) many times through the night please? Is it mainly anxiety...... as sometimes its only once.(duh!) I just dont know. Just about to take a holiday together and dreading sorting out hotel bathroom etc. Pads dont help as gets confused when removing pants etc as the need arises. any tips gratefully received. I already mark the toilet lid with big arrow pointing at the porcelain ( as they say) but is just a symptom of the dreaded disease .
     
  2. Spamar

    Spamar Registered User

    Oct 5, 2013
    6,955
    Suffolk
    Morning, goodtotalk.
    Will he not keep the pads on? I mean, that's what they're there for, to get wet! Especially as he's only doing little bits. Would he use a urine bottle? It worked a while for OH and he was happy to use it. When you're at home, a commode? Closer than loo, so might have time to get ready.
    I must admit OH, during the day often had little spills here and there and the floor was regularly scrubbed. If it smells, use a spray designed for pets, that worked for me.
    The other thing is that is there a prostate problem? May be as well getting him checked out by GP. I took OH to continence nurse when he was bad following hospital stay and she suggested no coffee after 18:00 and that worked a treat until dementia took over.

    Cheers and enjoy your holiday!
     
  3. malc

    malc Registered User

    can't you pick up a memo minder and put a reminder on it for him to sit down when using the toilet.
     
  4. Spamar

    Spamar Registered User

    Oct 5, 2013
    6,955
    Suffolk
    Malc, I know this might work, but not with my OH. Even then ( he's now in a home) he wouldn't read any notice at all!
     
  5. malc

    malc Registered User

    #5 malc, Jun 5, 2015
    Last edited: Jun 5, 2015
    no a memo minder is a motion activated sensor and you put a recording on it ie have you locked the door or i'm only outside or you've had your tea etc.i've got 2 of them,1 in the bedroom and 1 for holidays saying we're on holiday at butlins and don't forget it's no smoking.their on ebay.
     
  6. esmeralda

    esmeralda Registered User

    Nov 27, 2014
    3,072
    Devon
    I haven't heard of those Malc, sounds like it might be helpful Thank you. Es
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  7. Lindy50

    Lindy50 Registered User

    Dec 11, 2013
    5,302
    Cotswolds
    I hadn't heard of these either, so thanks Malc for posting :) Lindy x
     
  8. Jessbow

    Jessbow Registered User

    Presumably you have had his prostate checked?
     
  9. malc

    malc Registered User

    our memo minder is worth it's wait in gold and helps more than anybody could imagine,not expensive either.
     
  10. windflower

    windflower Registered User

    Jun 7, 2015
    3
    incontinence

    what is a memo reminder, what does it do and from where does one buy one
    many thanks
    windflower
     
  11. Beate

    Beate Registered User

    May 21, 2014
    11,703
    Female
    London
    Malc has explained above what it is. You might get it for free through your council's telecare department. We did.
     
  12. stanleypj

    stanleypj Registered User

    Dec 8, 2011
    10,650
    North West
    First priority is a visit to the GP. The night-time frequency could be down to a prostate problem or he could have a UTI. Yes, men can get them too and frequency can be the main symptom.

    'Missing' is a difficult one but if it's possible to train him to sit down to wee (I know - habit of a lifetime) that's the best solution.
     

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