Hi, My Heart is pounding and I feel exhausted. My wife has just peed in her pants, I found her in the bathroom, she had taken her pants off and put her knickers down the toilet which I had to fish out. Her legs were covered in pee, next step was to get her wet socks off and the rest of her clothes and get her into the shower. She adamantly refused and was insisting on coming back onto the bedroom carpet, I barred the door and insisted .she get undressed and have a shower. She refused saying she wanted to see her Dad, I normally let this go but snapped and told her that her dad was dead, he died about 30 years ago. We ended up shouting at each other and I came within a whisker of pushing her into the shower, l think she saw How angry I had become and went in and eventually took the rest of her clothes off.
I should say this came at the end of a day that started with the best of intentions, at last some sunshine and I took her for a drive out stopping for coffee and cake. But as usual nothing suited her ending up with her refusing to use the toilet in the cafe and apace back home in the car.
Then she refused to take her shoes off the start of another argument and wandered around the house with her hat and coat on for the rest of the day. Yesterday friends called in who she refused to speak to so tonight was really the final straw and I now hate myself for acting so badly, I laid clean clothes out for her but have had to walkway,truth is we are now at the point where we can just about tolerate each other. I should say until about 5 years ago and the onset of Alzheihmers we had a wonderful relationship. Don't expect any solutions but just needed to calm down and get this off my chest, sorry.
I should say this came at the end of a day that started with the best of intentions, at last some sunshine and I took her for a drive out stopping for coffee and cake. But as usual nothing suited her ending up with her refusing to use the toilet in the cafe and apace back home in the car.
Then she refused to take her shoes off the start of another argument and wandered around the house with her hat and coat on for the rest of the day. Yesterday friends called in who she refused to speak to so tonight was really the final straw and I now hate myself for acting so badly, I laid clean clothes out for her but have had to walkway,truth is we are now at the point where we can just about tolerate each other. I should say until about 5 years ago and the onset of Alzheihmers we had a wonderful relationship. Don't expect any solutions but just needed to calm down and get this off my chest, sorry.