Hi, About a month or so ago I had mentally and emotionally prepared myself for dad going into residential care. After looking at a few nursing homes, there was one local one that stood out to me and they had a room available. However in the time it took for us to arrange for them to come out and do an assessment of dad, the room became unavailable due to an urgent respite care and another person was also added to their waiting list ahead of dad.
So as you can imagine I mentally and emotionally unprepared myself and we carried on muddling through.
Well today I have just had a call from the Nursing home to say a room has become available. I feel like a rabbit caught in headlights, of course I said I definitely still want the room. But I'm so unprepared.
Dad has advanced dementia and with Social Services support we have agreed he is no longer safe to be on his own in his own home. The problem is I would be placing dad in the home, against his will, he has no idea that this is going to happen and he is going to be self funding. Please could you offer me some advice on how I should deal with this? How do I get him there and leave him, what reasons/white lies do I use etc? What I would need for dad in terms of clothing, toiletries, possessions etc and how do I get all this together without dad asking questions? Dad also has a thing about money, he currently has over £200 in his wallet, so I will also need to get this off him which is very difficult, as well has his house keys which he keeps on him at all times.
Any advice would be appreciated. I have contacted the Social worker to advise her a place has become available, but I'm not sure she is going to be able to offer me much help or advice.
Thanks.
Elle
So as you can imagine I mentally and emotionally unprepared myself and we carried on muddling through.
Well today I have just had a call from the Nursing home to say a room has become available. I feel like a rabbit caught in headlights, of course I said I definitely still want the room. But I'm so unprepared.
Dad has advanced dementia and with Social Services support we have agreed he is no longer safe to be on his own in his own home. The problem is I would be placing dad in the home, against his will, he has no idea that this is going to happen and he is going to be self funding. Please could you offer me some advice on how I should deal with this? How do I get him there and leave him, what reasons/white lies do I use etc? What I would need for dad in terms of clothing, toiletries, possessions etc and how do I get all this together without dad asking questions? Dad also has a thing about money, he currently has over £200 in his wallet, so I will also need to get this off him which is very difficult, as well has his house keys which he keeps on him at all times.
Any advice would be appreciated. I have contacted the Social worker to advise her a place has become available, but I'm not sure she is going to be able to offer me much help or advice.
Thanks.
Elle