I am looking for any advice really. My Grandma has being suffering with dementia of some sort for a few years however it has never been diagnosed. My Grandad who she lives with is now becoming very tired and loosing weight with the worry and stress involved in caring for my Gran. I have approached my Grandma's GP about 6 months ago who seemed to think like me it was some sort of dementia but my Grandad was unable to bring himself to go to the GP with my Grandma as she is unaware she has any problem and he is afraid that they will take her away into a care home so the GP could progress no further as it had to be my Grandads choice. My brother and Step-mum have basically said is best to leave things as they are..... but my Grandad is struggling and loosing weight. Anyhow yesterday afternoon my Grandad called me in a right state saying he'd had enough and he wanted to 'top himself' My Grandma had been accusing him again of stealing money, swearing etc etc
I said to him we need to get this sorted now. I made an appointment with a GP at their health centre and both myself and my husband went up their with my Grandad within 2 hours. My Grandad poured his heart out to the GP and he insisted my Grandma was brought to the surgery to see their own GP next week for a review, he felt just on what we had said my Grandma was suffering from mild/moderate dementia. I felt like we had finally made some progress. Now we have the difficult problem of the GP visit next week as my Grandma is unaware of anything being wrong with her and does not like anyone interfering however i think the GP will be able to explain it better than us as she does trust him. My Grandad has managed to convince her thats its a routine check-up so, so far so good. I have not mentioned aything to my brother or step-mum just yet as i feel they will be annoyed with me. The last thing i want is my Grandma being put in a home and them both being split up but i feel that things are now progressing where my Grandad is struggling to cope. Why do i feel so cruel but deep down i know i have done the right thing?
Any help or advice greatly appreciated
I said to him we need to get this sorted now. I made an appointment with a GP at their health centre and both myself and my husband went up their with my Grandad within 2 hours. My Grandad poured his heart out to the GP and he insisted my Grandma was brought to the surgery to see their own GP next week for a review, he felt just on what we had said my Grandma was suffering from mild/moderate dementia. I felt like we had finally made some progress. Now we have the difficult problem of the GP visit next week as my Grandma is unaware of anything being wrong with her and does not like anyone interfering however i think the GP will be able to explain it better than us as she does trust him. My Grandad has managed to convince her thats its a routine check-up so, so far so good. I have not mentioned aything to my brother or step-mum just yet as i feel they will be annoyed with me. The last thing i want is my Grandma being put in a home and them both being split up but i feel that things are now progressing where my Grandad is struggling to cope. Why do i feel so cruel but deep down i know i have done the right thing?
Any help or advice greatly appreciated