Hi
I've found solace in browsing these forums for a while now and so I've joined.
My Dad was diagnosed early this year with AZ and vascular dementia, he fell at home 4 weeks ago and is still in hospital. This wasn't helped by him being a walking skeleton, Mum stopped cooking/caring for him at some point and I go every day to cook for him to try and get weight back on.
He had spent the week worrying about Mum after she spent 24hrs in A&E, only found to be a bit dehydrated and so he started to spiral down.
He was the chief washer up and tea maker and did the hoovering before his fall and now he hasn't got up since he went to hospital. Staff were shocked when I said he was fully mobile at home. PTs say he will not regain his mobility and bed based may be the new norm.
He was due to move to a D2A bed in a care home but they now have norovirus on the ward. I'm unsure if they just assume his dementia is advanced and so he cant walk and that's that. He was seeing animals and a boat on the ward tonight so I dunno if that's delirium? His dementia has worsened tons since he was in hospital.
I am exhausted running Mum round to numerous appointments then to visit Dad before the ward was infected.
I've been ringing round to get her some help as she just sits in a chair and has done so for past 12 mths at least. Memory Team scored her 82/100 in Sept without me there, she has vascular MCI, no treatment needed they said. I have them coming back in January.
My siblings have had a christmas, I have not, as I hadn't even managed to shop for basic groceries in the past 2 wks. I go to see Dad, encourage him to eat and drink and then to Mum and encourage her as she's still not drinking enough & cant even be bothered to eat Jelly Drops. Her depression is not getting any better now dad's not there to look after her.
I have a carer to help address the house and Mum on an informal basis pending social services input as her social worker was too busy before xmas and has never met either parent since he was assigned in July.
Another social worker was offering me a carer to get mum up, give brekky then back at lunch time etc, just assessing her by talking to me on the phone after I had complained to safeguarding the day before.
I could go on but I wont
I've found solace in browsing these forums for a while now and so I've joined.
My Dad was diagnosed early this year with AZ and vascular dementia, he fell at home 4 weeks ago and is still in hospital. This wasn't helped by him being a walking skeleton, Mum stopped cooking/caring for him at some point and I go every day to cook for him to try and get weight back on.
He had spent the week worrying about Mum after she spent 24hrs in A&E, only found to be a bit dehydrated and so he started to spiral down.
He was the chief washer up and tea maker and did the hoovering before his fall and now he hasn't got up since he went to hospital. Staff were shocked when I said he was fully mobile at home. PTs say he will not regain his mobility and bed based may be the new norm.
He was due to move to a D2A bed in a care home but they now have norovirus on the ward. I'm unsure if they just assume his dementia is advanced and so he cant walk and that's that. He was seeing animals and a boat on the ward tonight so I dunno if that's delirium? His dementia has worsened tons since he was in hospital.
I am exhausted running Mum round to numerous appointments then to visit Dad before the ward was infected.
I've been ringing round to get her some help as she just sits in a chair and has done so for past 12 mths at least. Memory Team scored her 82/100 in Sept without me there, she has vascular MCI, no treatment needed they said. I have them coming back in January.
My siblings have had a christmas, I have not, as I hadn't even managed to shop for basic groceries in the past 2 wks. I go to see Dad, encourage him to eat and drink and then to Mum and encourage her as she's still not drinking enough & cant even be bothered to eat Jelly Drops. Her depression is not getting any better now dad's not there to look after her.
I have a carer to help address the house and Mum on an informal basis pending social services input as her social worker was too busy before xmas and has never met either parent since he was assigned in July.
Another social worker was offering me a carer to get mum up, give brekky then back at lunch time etc, just assessing her by talking to me on the phone after I had complained to safeguarding the day before.
I could go on but I wont