This is the first time posting to a forum like this for me, I care for my Father who (after much pushing) has been recently diagnosed with moderate mixed dementia. He has a mix of Alzheimer's and Vascular dementia.
I am a middle-aged woman with a full time job, and I am finding it increasingly difficult to balance my own life with the demands of being my Father's carer. I have done all the practical things to help my Father (and myself) like filling in the attendance allowance form, and very recently have got carers going in once a day until a proper care plan can be sorted out.
I have been feeling a right mix of emotions, from fear and sadness to anger and frustration. I feel quite alone. I do have a brother, but he is currently living abroad and as such I have been left with the majority of the donkey work, whilst he is satisfied by calling people up and asking the right questions. I feel that I have become detached from my own beautiful family, I have my Husband and my two daughters (21 and 17) who I obviously love very much. I have shouldered the responsibility of my Father very much upon myself, as I feel that he is just that, my responsibility. Of course there is a lot more to the story (bad childhood, childhood traumas, alcoholism within the family etc), but I'm here, now, with what I can only describe as a huge weight on my shoulders, just wanting to do the right thing.
Thank you for reading, and if by any chance anyone has tips of finding a balance between family life and being a carer, that would be grand!
I am a middle-aged woman with a full time job, and I am finding it increasingly difficult to balance my own life with the demands of being my Father's carer. I have done all the practical things to help my Father (and myself) like filling in the attendance allowance form, and very recently have got carers going in once a day until a proper care plan can be sorted out.
I have been feeling a right mix of emotions, from fear and sadness to anger and frustration. I feel quite alone. I do have a brother, but he is currently living abroad and as such I have been left with the majority of the donkey work, whilst he is satisfied by calling people up and asking the right questions. I feel that I have become detached from my own beautiful family, I have my Husband and my two daughters (21 and 17) who I obviously love very much. I have shouldered the responsibility of my Father very much upon myself, as I feel that he is just that, my responsibility. Of course there is a lot more to the story (bad childhood, childhood traumas, alcoholism within the family etc), but I'm here, now, with what I can only describe as a huge weight on my shoulders, just wanting to do the right thing.
Thank you for reading, and if by any chance anyone has tips of finding a balance between family life and being a carer, that would be grand!