Hello . My name is Margaret 1. I have been married for 55 years . I think my husband has Alzheimer’s or some form of dementia .

[Margaret 1]

Hello. I have a husband with undiagnosed dementia. He refuses to discuss his memory loss with any doctor or any person. Yet. He continues to suffer from the memory loss..

 

[Margaret 1]

What to do if won’t get medical help. Says such mean things to me . It is hard to ignore.

 

[SeaSwallow]

Hello @Margaret 1 and welcome to the Dementia Support Forum. This is quite a common issue when people have the start of memory loss. It could be that your husband just does not want to admit, even to himself, that his memory is not good.
All you can do at present is to keep a record of how this memory loss is affecting your husband and perhaps forward the list to his GP, with a suggestion that he calls your husband in for a 'well man' discussion.

 

[Margaret 1]

Thank you . I have done that but he won’t talk to go. My son says wait until he has a major obvious problem. I kind of think that is obvious answer . In the meantime I live with much pain from his remarks . My choice I guess. My love has evaporated . Maybe I no longer act out of love but human care . It is still hard .

 

[Silversally]

So sorry this is happening to you, Margaret. It helps me to think of myself as a professional carer, so I don’t expect my husband to always be nice to me. Has your husband’s personality changed or have you had difficulties in your relationship before this started? You will find a lot of support here if you need to tell someone what is happening.

 

[nita]

You can write a list of your concerns and take them to your GP. Doctors must be familiar with this situation and should discuss with you how they can help. You should also get yourself registered at the surgery as a carer. Others on here have suggested getting their relative an appointment for an over 60s general health check up.