We're awaiting a Memory Clinic appointment, but it's clear my mother has some form of dementia. My brother and I recently moved her to a house to be closer to us and where we can manage her life and health better for her; we're in the process of renting out her old home to fund her life here. This decision was made with her over a year ago, when she was much more aware and talking consistently about wanting to be closer to us and the rest of the family. Now she's here, it's a roller coaster from being "I'm so grateful, I'm so lucky to have my family, not everyone is so lucky" to "I feel isolated, no one comes to see me, you see (other members of the family) more than me, I'm going home (to her old house)". I just wonder how to approach the negative moods; I'm generally calm and try an explain the situation to her, particularly when the things she says are absolutely untrue I will tell her this is not what happened, they did not do that, etc. but she sees this as antagonistic and hostile. I don't mind this, she hasn't ever been an easy person to deal with. But given this new dimension of the disease, I don't know if I should just agree and pacify her, to help her feel better. Or if this will reinforce the (untrue) beliefs and they will magnify. This generally happens in phone calls, the only reason she will make a call, and which I'm tempted to just ignore.
Just to clarify we have taken care of everything from healthcare appointments, appointed a cleaner once a week, and specialist nurse twice a week, we also visit regularly. We've arranged the new home and house move and are currently doing up her old house and arranging new tenants, contracts. etc. Not saying this to get a medal, but to show we've done so much to ensure she's cared for and not isolated (as she was when she lived in her own home)
Just to clarify we have taken care of everything from healthcare appointments, appointed a cleaner once a week, and specialist nurse twice a week, we also visit regularly. We've arranged the new home and house move and are currently doing up her old house and arranging new tenants, contracts. etc. Not saying this to get a medal, but to show we've done so much to ensure she's cared for and not isolated (as she was when she lived in her own home)