Update
Okay, now I feel bad because I have just had a 40-minute conversation on Skype with mum and not only was she really nice, she thanked me and gave me lots of the information I've been trying to get out of her for ages. I feel bad for the previous posts saying how bad she's been. But that's how it works. Tomorrow she may well be calling me a b**** or whatever!
Anyway, she had been through her biscuit tin of important mail and gave me the following info. She read it all out to me - she doesn't actually really understand any of it herself, and some bits I am not clear about, because I haven't lived in the UK for over 20 years and I'm not sure how the UK pension system works now:
1) She gets a small state pension. I now know how much and how often.
2) One or both of them (seems to be dad?) gets pension credit.
3) Dad has been getting an attendance allowance since Dec. 2014! Mum didn't know this and so hadn't told me.
Mum's pension details seem simple enough, no problems there.
About the pension credit, from what I understand after looking it up online, this isn't actually a pension, it's a benefit. So I'm guessing that means it doesn't include dad's actual pension payments. Is that right? So am I still missing the figure for dad's actual state pension payment? It also said that "your pension credit is savings credit only, not guaranteed", which I understand to mean that they get it because they saved money for retirement, and they don't get the guaranteed because their combined income per week is more than 230.85 pounds.
About the attendance allowance, again, looking at the websites, I see dad gets the higher of the 2 possible ones, which means he needs "Help or supervision throughout both day and night, or you’re terminally ill". Mum is worried that they will take this away from her because she is the one who provides the help and supervision, not a professional carer - that isn't the case, is it?
Okay, so that's lots of progress I've made today. I'll also post this on the finances forum. What I need to know first is if the pension credit includes dad's actual pension payments or if I still don't have the figure for that and there is an extra letter floating about somewhere that says how much dad's actual pension is.
Onwards and upwards! Hope you are all having a good day. It feels so good to have had a nice, positive, productive conversation with my mother for once! And dad was okay too. Let's not forget him. I played him some Brendan Shine on YouTube and he was humming along. He couldn't remember the words, but his big smile made my day. I had played him some last time I spoke to him and he remembered and this time he asked for some music straight away!
LS