Good to hear from you JP, but sorry you are finding things so tough. I really hope you are doing some nice things for yourself, maybe in time some focus on treats or things that you enjoy will start to ease your pain. Mums are precious, it's hard when they are no longer with us. Amy - good idea about the hairdresser, but no other hairdresser will do - only the one back where I used to live, and that means an hour's drive! Based on what happened today, I think it will be possible to get mum into the car. The physio brought a walking frame with her today and we had mum walking with it! She was a bit 'clumsy' and unsteady with it as it's the first time she has ever used one, but she did well. I really can't quite believe how she has bounced back after the stroke. Maybe part of it is that she has no idea she was incapacitated by a stroke, so still thinks she can do everything as before? Maybe that helps somehow? The physio says that the fact she wants to do things, and can follow instructions, helps a lot. Amazingly, mum's toileting situation is improving too. I can get her onto a commode now. She seems to have some control back, though she is just being treated for an infection. I don't know exactly what kind of bladder infection it is, but the antibiotics seem to be working very quickly. The last three months have been horrendous, so much bad stuff - the stroke, the pressure sore (which has nearly healed as well!), no mobility, really awful toileting problems, the world and his wife coming and going. It's a surprise I didn't go totally mad with it all, but somehow I didn't. I've cut the carer calls this week as well, weeks and weeks of having my life dictated by all these calls has been really hard. It means I have to do a bit more myself, but it's worth it! All the best to everyone.