Thanks for sharing the lovely photo of your mum Lavender. She has a good face for 82! And her own teeth, or are they dentures?! A lovely face, lovely but also sad, sad that she has to endure this illness, like my own mum. Yes, there must be some very sad stories of people in homes with no one to visit them, no family and no outsiders to care for them (I might be one myself one day!). I guess they also have no one to bring them gifts and new clothes, slippers, etc. Perhaps not good to dwell on that too much as I'm feeling sad today. My mum is clearly declining further mentally now. There was a brief period after the stroke where there were some quite lucid moments, for not for a while now. There's often a short time first thing in the morning where she is a bit more 'normal' mentally, but by evening the confusion is hard to bear. And very often now she cannot name me and does not seem clear about our relationship to one another, I find it hard not to cry in front of her at times as it catches me suddenly. She will suddenly make a statement, out of the blue - I know she is probably not formulating the thought herself in her head as I don't think she's capable any more, but it will be something that just rips at your heartstrings. Desperately sad.