Hi Fiona,
I have read all posts to you and they are all correct in thier answer bar, one who said, 'just stop'. If it was just that simple.
Anyway I looked up the word 'guilty' in the dictionary and the definition is 'reasponsible for an offence or misdeed '.
I've always known what the word meant, but after today, I will never feel GUILTY again.
You, like everyone else on this site, is doing eveything they possibly can for their loved ones and the word we should really be looking for, does not exist.
Evey single one of us at some time will feel that we could be doing more, but like others have said, you can not do EVERYTHING.
All the wonderful people who become 'carers' by choice or other reasons, do so because they CARE.
Some people walk away, because they can't handle the situation, eveyone is different and as hard as this is to accept, accept it we must.
It does us good to have a good old MOAN about something we can;t do anything about. Being angry about a situation that could be sorted is a natural feeling, that results in frustration.
Even though I do everything in my power to look after my mum, the very thought of her going into a care home for a week in July, fills me with that awful word GUILT.
So Fiona even though I know the definition of the word and it doesn't apply to CARERS, until we cwn find another word for our feelings, we will ALL use the word GUILT.
Take care, bye for now x
Janetruth
I have read all posts to you and they are all correct in thier answer bar, one who said, 'just stop'. If it was just that simple.
Anyway I looked up the word 'guilty' in the dictionary and the definition is 'reasponsible for an offence or misdeed '.
I've always known what the word meant, but after today, I will never feel GUILTY again.
You, like everyone else on this site, is doing eveything they possibly can for their loved ones and the word we should really be looking for, does not exist.
Evey single one of us at some time will feel that we could be doing more, but like others have said, you can not do EVERYTHING.
All the wonderful people who become 'carers' by choice or other reasons, do so because they CARE.
Some people walk away, because they can't handle the situation, eveyone is different and as hard as this is to accept, accept it we must.
It does us good to have a good old MOAN about something we can;t do anything about. Being angry about a situation that could be sorted is a natural feeling, that results in frustration.
Even though I do everything in my power to look after my mum, the very thought of her going into a care home for a week in July, fills me with that awful word GUILT.
So Fiona even though I know the definition of the word and it doesn't apply to CARERS, until we cwn find another word for our feelings, we will ALL use the word GUILT.
Take care, bye for now x
Janetruth